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#1
Dec 31, 2008, 08:15 PM
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Is it really possible to care for yourself and not be cast as an evil villain?
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Dec 31, 2008, 08:18 PM
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Forget it! I'm in a lose-lose situation. This kids and I are going out regardless. He already retreated to the bedroom and will be asleep by 9 anyway. Placating him is impossible anyway.
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Dec 31, 2008, 08:28 PM
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(((((((((((chaotic13)))))))))))
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Dec 31, 2008, 08:32 PM
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(((chaotic)))
is "he" your husband? i'm a bit confused about what is going on. but i do think it's important that you take care of yourself - anyone who thinks you're a villain because you do so is having their own issues - you don't need to take them on. |
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Dec 31, 2008, 08:32 PM
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when someone is used to us putting their needs WAY above ours and then we change and want to see to our needs it can be a shock for them - they can feel its bacause we dont care as much or else why wouldnt we still be doing what we were and meeting our needs too - sometimes they dont realise that the two are not connected - we can still care as much for others but need to take care of ourselves
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Dec 31, 2008, 08:34 PM
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((Chaotic))
Let him stew. Old habits die hard. As you change it will take him time to catch up and realize that the "new" you is a better and healthier you. Happy New Year--enjoy the kids. And, you aren't an evil villain.
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Dec 31, 2008, 08:52 PM
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Chaotic,
I'm glad you decided to go out anyway. You have to take care of yourself first. You're not a villain, BTW  Take care of yourself and I hope you have a great time!
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Dec 31, 2008, 09:20 PM
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If I stayed it would not filled his needs and I would be even more resentful. I am determine to have a good time!
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Dec 31, 2008, 09:59 PM
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Dec 31, 2008, 10:21 PM
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Happy New Year!
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Dec 31, 2008, 10:48 PM
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We are at a friends house. Just saw Lionel Richie on TV damn he looks the same. I'm handing in Kids are great. This is my life but 2009 will be better!
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Dec 31, 2008, 11:03 PM
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But first of all you need hugs. 
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Dec 31, 2008, 11:04 PM
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INSOMNIA...bleghghghghghghghghghggh Every Day is a NEW DAY though. I like not having to wait an entire YEAR! Megads! 
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Jan 01, 2009, 12:36 AM
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Its possiable and its also a good thing. People may not like it but thats ok. Sometimes you hav to take care of you and people have to adjust.
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 Happy fall my friends
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Jan 01, 2009, 12:43 AM
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I think it's awesome that you went out with the kids, Chaotic. GOOD FOR YOU. You are taking care of you, and you are taking care of them.
This is still something I struggle with with H, but I think he's slowly coming around. I know that *I* am learning that his feelings are his feelings and he's welcome to have them, but I don't have to let them affect me and what I do. (I'm talking about when he's being unreasonable,here) ((((((((((((((((((Chaotic))))))))))))))))))))) I hope you had a great time tonight
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Jan 01, 2009, 12:49 AM
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Jan 01, 2009, 02:16 AM
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Plastic surgery does wonders
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Jan 01, 2009, 03:12 AM
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I always thought he was like cliff richards - a robot in disguise thats why they never get older!!!
Hope you had a great day with the kids
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Jan 01, 2009, 04:30 AM
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Just wanted to share. That I made to until 4. For a 40 something with two kid...I think I did OK. Made my exit when the salsa dancing go a little to close for comfort. Not into the sandwich thing if you know what I mean. Maybe next New Year's for that one. Thanks everyone for your support. A little PC goes a long way in trying to move forward (((( ))))). I'm sure I'm if the dog house tomorrow for leaving H behind. But F* it. That's tomorrow...well today..whatever.
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Jan 01, 2009, 04:38 AM
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Jan 01, 2009, 05:52 AM
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Chaotic! Yea, you go girl!! you did the "right" thing!
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#22
Jan 01, 2009, 11:02 AM
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Abds and quads a feeling it today. Must have been the Beonce video attempt --very ugly...hope I'm not a Youtube at this point.
I did hear..."4 AM WTF!" once this morning. Just smiled and said, "Happy New Year to you too." Both the party host and I tried hard to get him to attend...what else can you do? |
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Jan 04, 2009, 11:10 PM
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Chaotic,
I'm glad you had a good time! You said that you'd probably be in the dog house for leaving your H behind. You didn't leave him behind, he refused to go with you. Framing is everything, lol, and true in this instance. Just a suggestion -- now that you have a possible controversial You Tube clip of your festivities, you might want to put off running for office.  Take care.
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