[sarahxxkristine]

it was different today than ever before....ther was no constant agreeing with me....more or less, disagreeing--correcting me if u will....If i went off track or didnt know how to answer, she told me so. "dfkjdf and sdfjkskdf are way different..." she hadnt done that before....is this a step forward in therapy? because i feel like i could have easily shut down (i hate being told i am wrong...)

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by sarahxxkristine

it was different today than ever before....ther was no constant agreeing with me....more or less, disagreeing--correcting me if u will....If i went off track or didnt know how to answer, she told me so. "dfkjdf and sdfjkskdf are way different..." she hadnt done that before....is this a step forward in therapy? because i feel like i could have easily shut down (i hate being told i am wrong...)

Did it feel like a step forward? Did it feel like a move in the direction of healing? My T has always told me that only I know what I need to heal so I tend to be the one to choose the path. Maybe you can ask yourself did your session feel unsettling because you feel it was going in the wrong direction or was it because you were challenged and were shying away from that feeling? Sometimes it is good to be challenged in therapy but it can feel uncomfortable.

I don't think I'd like it if someone "corrected" me a lot or told me I was "wrong." I think there are more graceful ways to do that, like the T could say, "I have a different interpretation," or "I wonder if such and such is what was going on?" That gives you time to weigh their alternative explanation and come to your own conclusion on whether it has merit or not. I also think it leads to more lasting change if you make the final decision yourself on what the correct interpretation is rather than having your T impose views on you. JMO. The times my T came closest to telling me I was wrong or correcting me was when he thought I needed to do more for my kids. He was very stern but wanted to get his message across. (No Mr. Nice Guy.)

[sarahxxkristine]

thank you for the answer sunrise but yeah, idk. im constantly being corrected by my parentals so it definitely felt alittle weird, but sometimes i just dont know how to answer her questions, but i try my best and usually she'll let it go...but today she corrected me...idk. i guess it kept me on track

[sunrise]

Well, sounds like you got some benefit from her new approach. You could also ask her why she changed tactics. Her answer could be interesting.

My PNP was just telling me the other day that she was in therapy for 5 years with a Jungian therapist and I guess the T was not directive at all. She said she learned a lot and they went deep, but looking back, she wonders if that kept her in the same place longer than she needed to be. And she might have changed/grown faster if her T had been more confrontational. But she said she did learn a lot about herself and get where she wanted to go, but it took longer than it might have with a different approach.

[ECHOES]

It's very important to talk to your T about this, noticing her responding to you in a different way and how you feel about it.

Sometimes my T gets into this 'reframing' mode and it feels like she's disagreeing with me when she's offering me other perspectives, other ways of looking at what I'm talking about. Sometimes I am receptive to this and other times, many times , I react strongly because it feels like she'd telling me I'm full of it or I'm stupid. So, we talk about that and it's all helpful

[sarahxxkristine]

thanks guys. yeah the next time i wil c her her though is probably mid may....idk if ill even remember what happened this session when the next one comes along. i may have been over reading it, but it just felt different today. she usually dissagreed with me in my favor...like if i was being to hard on myself, shed correct me and tell me something in my favor, but today was different, i was being corrected because i was wrong...or off the acutal topic. it was just strange. idk if it helped because i tend to be turned off by people being ciritcal of me....i tend to just say 'ur right' and hope to God the conversation changes or ends. i guess i ought to talk to her about it....but who knows it itll even be an issue the next time i see her.

[Sannah]

Sarah I would suggest you definitely talk to her about it. It sounds like a gold mine since you hate to be corrected and your parents did/do it. A lot can be learned from this.........