[deliquesce]

ok, forgive me for a completely frivolous and bandwidth eating post, BUT...

pdoc just sent me an sms almost entirely in txt spk. it took me a while to figure out what it meant. he then signed it off with "kind regards".

does anyone else think pdocs should stick to pdoc-ing, and leave txt spk to the kids?

[Mouse_]

HHmm, Yeah I get your drift. I don't think we like to think of people who are supposed to be taking care off us having a "child" part , its scary.

[deliquesce]

oh, thank you!

that is it, entirely. pdoc has been letting his child-side out a bit lately, and it is a bit weird. in some ways it is fun and good for me also because it feels a bit intimate and safe coming from him, but in others i am there because i need my issues attended to and having him joke around once too often kind of throws me off.

e.g., i will be saying something (like, err... these meds are causing me to hallucinate) and he will interject with "hey, i really like your earrings".

i know it's not his intention, but it does make me feel a bit like i'm not being heard, or that if he is registering - that it isn't important enough to be addressed. if i'm even more honest - it makes my kind of nurturing (?) side kick in, and be like the 'adult' who has to humour a kid.

he really is a good dr, so i feel bad for even saying that ^. i hope it doesn't establish itself as a long term pattern.

but thank you for your insight, mousey . to be honest, i've been feeling ridiculous for letting that little sms get to me so much, but your response really does get to the heart of the matter.

[imapatient]

Deli, I think he's doing it to make it seem to be a less stressful, less threatening environment for you given that massive s**t you've gone thru elsewhere in the mental health system and the extremely difficult times you've been having. Like, horrendously serious. Don't mean that he's not being authentic; it sounds genuine and he's trying to reveal himself "as a real person (the person that he is)" for your benefit. Think of how much bandwidth gets used here by us about how we want to know what our T's real lives are like, or the "real them."

And then you have the TEMERITY!!!! to complain when it does happen. Ingrate. Be careful, you could ruin it for the rest of us who want more of that. And we'll know who to blame.

At the risk of sounding like a broken record.....if it bugs you, it's totally worth talking about with him.

Aren't I boring?? lolol

[deliquesce]

oh gosh, impy, you seriously made me laugh out loud to that. thank you .

you are probably right. pdoc has been sharing a lot more with me recently and, for the most part, it really does feel nice. almost like we are friends instead of him being the authority and me the meek and trusting consumer.

i hate it when he has a bigger-picture-plan and does things for a reason!

[deliquesce]

Originally Posted by earthmama

At the risk of sounding like a broken record.....if it bugs you, it's totally worth talking about with him.

Aren't I boring?? lolol

lolol, sweetie . have i mentioned elsewhere that i have broken up with exes because they engaged in txt spk? it really is a very heinous crime...

i think i will let it slide with pdoc just this one time, though. i will just tell myself he dictated the txt to his kid, who punched it in for him.

[imapatient]

I'm taking this in an additional direction. Given that I wanted to post about something I don't feel about safe posting here, I was going to post about the most abstract concept involved and make a thread of my own to address a linguistic issue that makes my eyes bleed:

"Suicided" and "suiciding" are not Verbs. Nor is "suicided" or "suiciding." The latter 2 aren’t even Words.

Called a T out years ago when she said "he suicided"--don't think I'd encountered it (ab)used that way. Made her acknowledge it isn't a Verb and isn’t even a Word.

Not even a verb. Maybe, however, a vrb given that it's a more recent abuse of the English language along with txting etc.

[darkrunner]

lol imapatient....

my old T in partial used to use the word "suicidality" - it drove me nuts!!
I don't think that is a word either.

here's a troublesome one that makes my eyes bleed:

'loose' = "My diet worked so my pants are LOOSE"
'lose' = something is lost as in: "I hate when I LOSE my keys"

[hangingon]

LOL Well suicidality and homicidiality are words used as psych papers ....I have had to write papers using those two terms. Very interesting seeing they are not in the dictionary lol

[serafim_etal]

Originally Posted by hangingon

LOL Well suicidality and homicidiality are words used as psych papers ....I have had to write papers using those two terms. Very interesting seeing they are not in the dictionary lol

Well...here's what I found in Merriam-Webster's...
Main Entry: 3suicide
Function:verb
Inflected Form(s):sui·cid·ed; sui·cid·ing
Date:1841
intransitive verb : to commit suicide
transitive verb : to put (oneself) to death

I didn't find suicidality, but have seen it used in both peer reviewed papers and textbooks. So I am thinking that may be a word that will eventually appear in the dictionary!

[mixedup_emotions]

LOL.....I work for a linguistic company and just purchased my T's online books and read them over the weekend. SOOOO many grammatical errors, some typos, etc. I kept thinking that maybe I should let my T know since he is selling them. I'm figuring that if they are in pdf format, there has to be a master file that can be edited somewhere.

But I don't think I have the nerve to mention it to him.... Even though it's for his benefit, I would be afraid that I would jeopardize our relationship just by picking on the negatives instead of focusing on the positives.

[deliquesce]

'suicided' and 'suiciding' should not be words, even if they are. they would make my brain bleed.

'suicidality' is something i have run across in heaps of psych papers, too. maybe it could pass as a clinical term.

mixedup - mention it to him!! our lecturers always make us buy their bloody books, so they can test run it on us first before selling to the public at large. maybe it would be nice if you could preface the list of errors with something positive about the content of the book, though.

[mixedup_emotions]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

mixedup - mention it to him!! our lecturers always make us buy their bloody books, so they can test run it on us first before selling to the public at large. maybe it would be nice if you could preface the list of errors with something positive about the content of the book, though.

You're probably right. How can I sit there and let there be grammatical errors and typos in his BOOKS....Oh, and there are incomplete sentences as well. I really am afraid at how he will take it....like it's some kind of personal attack on his intelligence or something (which it's totally not, but you know what I mean)....I like your suggestion to preface it with some good points. I'll have to work on that.

Ria

[deliquesce]

maybe just point out the typos and incomplete sentences. let the grammatical errors slide, because people tend to get huffy about them.

or maybe - mention that you've read the book, say something nice about it (or even better - ask a question - ego boost to T!!) and then say you noticed a few typos and stuff if he wanted you to let him know? perhaps it's less threatening that showing up with a 20 page documents on errors?

[imapatient]

Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions

You're probably right. How can I sit there and let there be grammatical errors and typos in his BOOKS....Oh, and there are incomplete sentences as well. I really am afraid at how he will take it....like it's some kind of personal attack on his intelligence or something (which it's totally not, but you know what I mean)....I like your suggestion to preface it with some good points. I'll have to work on that.
Ria

One of the best lessons I've learned came from witnessing how my undergrad advisor treated me in her responses to my written work: The first thing mentioned is positive. Always. Say something good right at the beginning so you don't get off on the wrong path. Helped me in my later teaching.