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Old Jun 19, 2014, 11:15 AM
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I depend on my therapist. It is awesome. It is also anxiety-inducing. Aside from how it feels (wonderful and difficult) it has been incredibly helpful.
Thanks for this!
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Old Jun 19, 2014, 12:38 PM
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I've had very deep, painful Transference on therapists, but I finally learned how it's supposed to work. The transference needs to be in the therapy; as without it you're just intellectualizing, not making full use of your therapy. When you do become dependent, the T understands all about it, and you work through the issues in your past that went wrong for you, as well as feelings about the T. The transference actually changes your mind's "wiring" , chemical synapses and neurons, in a healing way as you face your fears and angers in the present and the past.
Then, it isn't a matter of "weaning" or traumatic separation at the end. For, if that's how you feel, it isn't the end. You can't believe it for a long time, but your mind grows and your ego gains strength. The "end" comes when you change your feelings about the T, and decide that you would rather do something else with your time and money.

I know it's impossible to believe that, and as long as you feel that way, therapy isn't over. So, don't worry, just stay in therapy. I've been through this so know how it works. Just try to trust your therapist, and the process.
And also, it helps to read up on line about this "Transference" topic.
Wow wow wow. Thank you for this. "the end comes when you change your feelings about the t" part. This has just recently happened for me. And I had a dream last night where she and I hugged and said goodbye and I watched her walk away and she didn't look back and I was not sad and walked away down my own path. We'll be talking about this dream next week. Wow.... Because I have tried to tell her several times that I want to be done and she always says I am not and then I realize she is right, might be diff this time since my feelings for/about her are so diff now. Interesting.

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Old Jun 19, 2014, 02:40 PM
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The responses to this thread have all been so enlightening and well-written and thoughtful...

Just thanks to all who took the time to answer it and write such beautiful things about the healing that can take place in therapy...
I guess I just needed to hear it again.

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