[fallenangel337]

Does anyone else get a bit of seperation anxiety? Everytime something even remotely bad happens, my first thought is wanting to tell T. Then when you get a week's worth of events, that's when the anxiety hits. Does anyone else get this, and what do you do about it?

[MINIME]

I call alot not needing calls back alot just tell them or write them and deliver or write then write what i imagine they would say. I am lucky.

[MissCharlotte]

I used to get super anxious all the time. Sometimes I would call T, sometimes I would journal, sketch or write poetry.

((fallen))

[rainbow8]

Yes, it happened to me all of the time. I wanted to share everything with my T. Sometimes I would call her if I just couldn't wait until the session; other times I would write it down and think about what I wanted to say to her. In between sessions was always hard for me. I used to wish I could call her every day to tell her what was going on in my life.

[3velniai]

I get similar feelings too. I'm allowed to email t as much as I want to, so guess what I do, lol. I never write what happened though unless it's something extremely urgent and I can't account for myself. I usually write to check if she's still there.

[deliquesce]

yes. i have been struggling with this recently - it is freaking me out. usually i am so independent, and able to just rely on myself, that it is getting me really upset now that i'm thinking of calling pdoc when bad things happen, instead of just dealing with them the way i previously would've.

i dont know if i have anything useful to say, but just wanted to say that i relate. i tried to bring this up with pdoc today, but i'm too embarrassed/ashamed to admit it that i don't think he got what i was really going on about.

Yes, this has been REALLY hard for me in the past.

T lets me call/e-mail as much as I need to to get things out of my head. There have been times where I've left tons of voice mails, and sent loads of e-mails (not asking for a call or e-mail back, just to get stuff OUT) and it has helped some.

Now that I've been seeing him for so long, it's getting easier to manage that time between appointments. I saw him last Thursday and will see him this upcoming Tuesday (he is on vacation). I usually see him twice a week, with contact in between appts, so this is a long time for me. He has told me I can leave voice mails and e-mail as much as I need to, but I haven't had to do it once. I have written a long journal-type e-mail, but I haven't had to send it. It feels good to have reached this point...but on the other hand, when he comes back, I bet I will need a lot of contact again for a little while just to reassure myself he's really "there" again.

Do you know your Ts policy about contact between appointments? Is it okay to leave voice mails? Can you journal and bring it to your appointment? Maybe knowing what your options are will help you come up with ways to manage that time between appointments.

For me, PC is super helpful between appointments. It feels good to be able to come here and get support from people who really get it.

Lots of to you!

[Hugs needed]

I can really relate to this and I know how hard it can be. Now, I first try jounaling all my feelings. If the anxiety is still too much that I can't handle I will make a call to my therapist.
I was also given some medication to take when my anxiety is real high and I can't get it under control. I try to avoid taking.

Take Care! Rememer to put yourself first!!!.. You are Important!!..

[peaches100]

Yes, I definitely get that separation anxiety feeling. I'm allowed to email my t, but she'd like me to restrict it to 1 email per week if/when i'm able. So far, i usually have to leave a couple of messages per week -- on a super bad week, maybe 3 emails. But i strive for just the 1 email as much as i can.

In between sessions, i use distraction and some of the coping skills my t has taught me. Sometimes, i'll write letters to her but not send them. I also try to bring up in my mind the sound of her voice or something she's said to me recently, to try to hand onto the connected feeling.

It's really hard to wait a whole week to see her again when something major is going on in my life, but i just try to keep myself busy as much as possible and hope the time goes by fast.

[ECHOES]

Yes, I get "a bit". ... kinda like the Atlantic Ocean is a bit of water.

It can be so hard. A little separation anxiety can lead to obsessing and feeling so alone. Sometimes I am a wreck, sometimes I write about it, sometimes I call and leave a message, sometimes I need to connect with Tand then I'm okay again.

[fallenangel337]

Wow! it is SO helpful to know that so many people are goign through the same thing! I mean, I'm not happy that you are all going through anxiety, but it's helpful to know I'm not alone.

Originally Posted by deliquesce

yes. i have been struggling with this recently - it is freaking me out. usually i am so independent, and able to just rely on myself, that it is getting me really upset now that i'm thinking of calling pdoc when bad things happen, instead of just dealing with them the way i previously would've.

i dont know if i have anything useful to say, but just wanted to say that i relate. i tried to bring this up with pdoc today, but i'm too embarrassed/ashamed to admit it that i don't think he got what i was really going on about.

I am also freaked out by this...I've always been so independant, and now, I'm a nervous wreck in between sessions. I've NEVER depended on anyone like this before, so i don't really know how I feel about it yet.