[crystalrose]

I'm having problems in therapy because im coming towards an age where i cant see the therapist anymore because its age limited. it is devastating and hard becasue i have a huge attatchment to her. i dont know what to do.
I feel stressed everyday and find it hard to go to work.

I started seeing a new counsellor but i'm not sure if its going to work as the style of therapy is way different and she asks far too many questions.

I'm also being referred to a Dr Therapist and see the therapist this week.
All these changes in therapy are driving me crazy and im so sad that just because my next birthday i wont be able to see my therapist anymore.I'm crying lots about this and could really use support and hugs! Tell me what i should do.
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[Mouse_]

Chrystal, Sorry I can't tell you what to do, it must be tough having to terminate because of age. I hope things do work out in the future, sometimes they do turn out for the better. Good luck.

[darkrunner]

Crystalrose.....

Sounds like a difficult transition you will be dealing with.

Are your T's helping you process your feelings and cope with all the changes?

I agree with Mouse, sometimes these things can turn out much better, but it is hard go through. Take care of yourself....ok?

[phoenix7]

I hope either your old T or your new T will help you process these feelings - sending you lots of .....

[chaotic13]

crystalrose, I'm sorry you are in this situation. As P7 I hope both your old and your new T will help you make the transition. I know it is likely tough to see it this way but maybe this is an important change for your. A chance for you to move into another phase of your life. It is scary but sometimes these changes are exactly what we need to expand our horizons a bit. I am a firm believer that when one door closes, several others open. We just need to let go and see where the next one leads. I hope you can find the courage to explore creating a therapeutic relationship with your new T. It will likely be totally different: not as good in someways a lot better in others. Maybe as you end with your current T you could make it a point to celebrate the struggles and successes you've had together. Create something memorable that you can keep. Maybe a therapy yearbook. Start with a snap shot or drawing of you and your T at the beginning of your therapy. Maybe create a things I am going to really miss page--don't hold back put everything your feeling down in both words, images, colors, etc. Depending on your T maybe she would be willing to put some things down that she will be missing also. At the end of the book....maybe create a hope for the future page. Here you can write all the things you hope to accomplish in the next...10 yrs. Again, put EVERYTHING you can think of down.

It sounds like... you can't stop this change from happening... so I say... take what time you have left to celebrate it.

[peaches100]

Crystalrose,

I know you are anxious about leaving your therapist that you are so attached to. It's sad and difficult and scary. The others have made some great suggestions about how you and your t can work together to make this transition easier for you. I like the idea of the two of you doing something to celebrate the accomplishments you've made in therapy. . .and doing something that will help you hold onto the happy memories of your connection with your t. Even after you stop your sessions with your t, you can still hang onto that connection with her in your heart. Have you asked her if there will be any opportunity to keep in touch with her after termination, for example, sending an email every few months just to let her know how you're doing? Some therapists will allow this, others will not. It's worth asking about.