[sweetpea_tx]

Okay... so I blocked my boyfriend off of facebook for the longest time after he made some evil posts to my wall in anger (my 12 year old daughter is one of my "friends" on facebook, so I thought that it was warranted) Things are better and still improving with he and I (he hasn't had a drink since Monday...) So, I unblocked him. He's been told time and time again that I was (and still am to a degree) a tomboy. I really thought nothing of anything that was on my wall as being wrong. There are a group of us that played with "Send a Round". One of my old BMX buddies (ages 9-12) didn't collect all his drinks til the other day, and he published them all. First thing Ryan did was go to my wall and see all these drinks that I had sent Jamie (who was in later years part of the crew I bar hopped with). He flipped out. He thinks that under no circumstances can a male and female that are both heterosexual be platonic friends. So, now he's mad at me. He accused me of going on a date with Jamie when I was back in Iowa for my grandfathers funeral (I went out once... and he talked to my friend Anne in the course of the evening). Then, he copped an attitude because there was some banter between me and a fellow Cubs fan that I've known since kindegarten. Anyways... just to prove to him that I can do with out, I deleted every last male on my page, except my (step)dad, brother, cousin, one of my old buddies from church (I know his wife the same way and she's a friend as well), my youth pastor, my church choir director, and another friend's hubby (I'm staying in their house and he's a Cardinals fan... plus he tips me off when there's a package coming that I need to forward to Stacy cuz he's buying her presents online) What else?

He also proceeded to yell at me for my insensitivity as to his drinking problem from having alcohol related posts on my wall (I since deleted the application). What the bleep!?!? He wasn't on my page until today, and he was still drinking as of Monday (but none since). I'm not an alcoholic.

Any advice would be great!

[jerrymichele]

Sounds like he has got some major problems. He's controlling. I would run as fast as I could away from him. If he's this way now it's only going to get worse. Hope this helps

[AAAAA]

There are so many issues involved it doesn't sound like this relationship will succeed without a serious overhaul.

I would like to offer a bit of advice about being in a relationship with an alcoholic in recovery. It's a lot of work, even though you don't have a problem, if you want to support him in his journey to remain sober you have to change your lifestyle too. It's not your responsiblity to keep him sober, but on the other hand you shouldn't be putting temptation in the way either. The facebook thing is pure silliness in my opinion.

I come from a long line of professional drinkers. The only ones that have been successful in remaining sober have been couples that BOTH people stopped drinking and avoiding those social activities that included drinking. My father was sober for 10 years before my mother picked up a drink socially again. My Aunt waited about 5 years. Even though you may not have a problem, it is a committment to a lifestyle change.

Is this man worth you changing your entire life? Changing how you deal with your male friends? Your banter may be considered flirting and while it may mean nothing to you or the person your talking to, it can really irritate someone that already has trust issues. Sounds like this man has a lot of issues, is he worth it?

[Elysium]

SweetPea...I love ya darlin', but I gotta tell ya that the more you succumb to his infantile and abusive behaviors, the more you are reinforcing those behaviors which just says to him to keep on coming with it.

What would you say to you daughter, if she were a bit older, and had a BF that treated her that way!?!

I think it's trash day....kick it to the curb!!!!

I'll be around if you need to talk!!!!

[arcanum]

Elysium is right!!

You cant cut everyone out of your life for one man either, no-one is worth that!

We all deserve to be happy and shouldnt have to change in order to be loved, after all if thats the case they didnt fall in love with you at all!

Hope you work out whats best for you