[amy83]

So my bf and i have been dating for almost six months. I'm pretty sure i'm in love. He's so good with my kids; sometimes handles them better than i do.... We take them to the beach and car shows and just out for walks and I see him every weekend and a night during the week. He lives an hour away and most of the time is driving here to see me because it's too hard for me to take the boys to his house and get them to sleep... But anyway, He's great I could really see myself with him long term. Only problem is we haven't had sex in close to a month. A couple weeks ago we talked about how I need it to feel that connection with him, But he doesn't get it. He says usually girls feel closer by not having sex.
I was in a bad mood most of the weekend and i snapped at him a few times which i feel bad about. I told him before he left on Sunday night that i don't feel like his GF anymore I just feel like his friend and he says baby we spent all weekend doing stuff together and we had fun....
I asked him to please leave his laptop at home when he comes tommorow night he said he'd think about it. He's trying to become a sound engineer so he's always looking up that stuff and posting on forums about it. It's his dream job. But i feel like he's doing that so much that he's not paying attention to me.

I feel like lately we have barely cuddled or really spent any time just with eachother. He's on medication to stay off pain pills so i know that puts him less in the mood... I get that. But i just miss him so much. We sleep in bed together and the last few times he hasn't even really been holding me. I tried kissing him and tried to get him in the mood but i dont like to try to hard and make him feel like i'm forcing it on him but he just kissed me and rolled back over. He doesn't like talking about sex he says it puts him less in the mood when i talk about it.
I don't know what to do

[BiscuitTin]

Could it be that he isn't in the mood because he feels that you are pressuring him into it? . . . it needs to be a spontaneous thing . . .

The other thing to remember is that he may feel unable to perform while on his current medication . . .

I definitely think you should ask him for clarification on where your relationship is at. Sit down with him with no distractions and ask him, and don't leave until you get a straight answer.

That's my advice, anyway.

[amy83]

[quote=BiscuitTin;1067911]Could it be that he isn't in the mood because he feels that you are pressuring him into it? . . . it needs to be a spontaneous thing . . .

I know that is kind of part of it. He doesn't like to talk about it because it makes him want it even less. But i'vee beeen kind of leaving it alone and just thinking it's not gonna happen... Hoping maybe he will do something. We just talked and he agreed to leave his computer at home tommorow night. So that's a step maybe i will at least get some cuddle time. I miss him so much.