[Gina23]

I think that my boyfriend is attracted to my best friend and the thought of it disturbs me. At a dinner recently he could not stop looking at her. It is not unexpected she is a lot like me looks and personality, however my gut just churns and i fear that it is like one of those intuitive things.
The situation is that it was my birthday dinner and i had invited her and some other friends. She came without her boyfriend in a tight, low cut, breast popping dress. My boyfriend and her ended up talking from across the table and she began to complain about her financial state. My boyfriend is well off, and makes good money so on the way home he asked me if he should lend her some money. Normally i would think this was a very sweet thing to do for a friend, however my own sister was complaining about her own financial state a few days before and he had not mentioned to help her out. This besides the fact that he was stealing glances at her chest through the night makes me feel like my friend is a threat to our relationship, but i dont know if i am just being paranoid.

[dotbar]

Yikes! I have to tell you I find it is almost always better to go with your intuition. I sure wish I had so many times--it was bang on so often...Also its better to know now if he isn't terribly committed to your relationship rather than later on.

[Jenn1fer82]

Originally Posted by Gina23

I think that my boyfriend is attracted to my best friend and the thought of it disturbs me. At a dinner recently he could not stop looking at her. It is not unexpected she is a lot like me looks and personality, however my gut just churns and i fear that it is like one of those intuitive things.
The situation is that it was my birthday dinner and i had invited her and some other friends. She came without her boyfriend in a tight, low cut, breast popping dress. My boyfriend and her ended up talking from across the table and she began to complain about her financial state. My boyfriend is well off, and makes good money so on the way home he asked me if he should lend her some money. Normally i would think this was a very sweet thing to do for a friend, however my own sister was complaining about her own financial state a few days before and he had not mentioned to help her out. This besides the fact that he was stealing glances at her chest through the night makes me feel like my friend is a threat to our relationship, but i dont know if i am just being paranoid.

Hmm.. this is a tough situation bc there's alot of miscommunication going on here. How long have you guys been together and do you guys have a strong relationship? Men will be men and with their short attention span they are easily distract by things that interest them. I'm not saying he likes your friend but men loves boobs. Maybe talk to the guy and ask what he thinks of your good friend. You can also wait it out for a little while if his actions continues to be questionable then let him know about it. Don't attack the guy becaues it will only make things worst for the relationship and you won't be able to make your point.

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by Gina23

She came without her boyfriend in a tight, low cut, breast popping dress.

What man wouldn't have looked at her in the outfit you described?
I'm sure I would of elbowed my own husband of twenty-three years a few times.

I guess the old fact is still true and standing - some men will do any thing for a good looking female.

[jerrymichele]

This is what I would tell my boyfriend. No! and No! If she needs money (since she is YOUR friend) she should address this to you. Personally I think he disrespected you. I know my boyfriend looks, (a man for you) but I think when he brought up the fact about giving her money, that's a red flag IMO. Like you said if he wants to help people why couldn't he offer your sister help also? This is what I have told my boyfriend about looking, because men just need to look. I said that I know that you look. I don't care that you look, but when your around me, show me some respect, and look, but don't stare. If this doesn't work then this is what you do. You excuse yourself from where you are at. You go up and start socializing with other men. Then when he gets upset.(which he will) then say what honey, you can dish it out, but you can't take it. I guarantee that he will get the hint, and probably won't do it again. If you want to tell him about his behavior, than do so. I would just say what I need to say about him looking, but I also wouldn't argue about it either. Tell him once, and if he doesn't listen repay the favor.