This friend of mine, he is probably the closest thing I've ever had to a crush Though, I didn't really like him that much lately since he talked about sex stuff quite often (Well, can't quite hold that against him since most teenage boys do) in graphic detail on the bus. He thinks it's funny, but it's just ick to me. (he does have a lot of good qualities though as well)

but he's dating this girl, actually, they've been dating for at least a year now. Now, she used to be my brother's girlfriend (the dating pool is pretty small here in the middle of nowhere) and I know from him that this girl has issues. Now, everyone has their issues, but she's just over all not a person who you can really have a healthy relationship with at this point. She's manipulative, controlling, and likes to spread nasty rumors about her ex boyfriends and their girlfriends (not to mention he still has scars I think from when she claws him sometimes).

He broke up with her at least once, during the winter when he was having a really hard time because his grandpa had passed and he was just feeling depressed and he had to go to the hospital because he was so sick over break and stuff. While all his friends were being supportive and caring she was just thinking totally about herself and didn't really care about him. Well, a few weeks later she managed to bring him back, and at this point it's like the beginning of the relationship all over again with him answering her every beck and call.

Now, for awhile I was neutral about the whole thing, I didn't like it. Heck, nobody who really knew him liked it really. We kept of telling him how toxic the relationship is, but he was happy with it. Well, I just gave up really, if he's happy with being a doormat then hey, who am I to judge?

When the graduation was over though, a new bolt of worry for him ran through me. I noticed that there were cuts on his arms. I havn't seen him since graduation, but I talked to my friend about it, she said he's had those ever since he started dating that girl.

[I_WMD]

Kaika .. You are very intuitive ... Don't lose that >>...along with a deeply caring soul .

I believe and trust you already have your answer as to " what next " ,,,,
WMD.

I really havn't come up with a solution actually.

I don't want him stuck in an unhealthy relationship...
And it'd kill me to have to wait until the next disaster happens and he breaks up with her again.

But at the same time you could talk to him until you are blue in the face and I'm pretty sure he won't change his mind, for whatever reason he seems to be madly in love with this girl. I'm under the impression that if I tried he's just get mad at me anyways (which I can't blame him for either, I can only imagine how annoying that would be). I don't want to be that person who tries to break a couple up .

...and it really doesn't help that every single female in the same vicinity of me who sees when we are around each other thinks I have a crush on him. (it must be pretty obvious then?) though as far as I'm concerned he is one of my best friends ...who I like ...a lot (okay, I'll admit it: I still think I'm crushing all over for him but in my head there are several reasons why it'd never work out). I can just picture it though, if I did express to him my feelings and she found out then she'd just assume and try to convince everyone that I'm trying to steal her boyfriend or something. (though, she's have a tough time doing that- I have a reputation of being super nice ) I'm not exactly afraid of her, I just don't want to get caught up in a tangled web of drama and lies.

[I_WMD]

. I just don't want to get caught up in a tangled web of drama and lies.

And ,, that is why patience is a virtue ......
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WMD.