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Jul 06, 2009, 09:00 AM
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I gave birth to our son two and a half months ago, and recently my husband has admitted to me that he accidentally caught a glimpse of the baby as he was in his final moments of delivery, which as adults we all know is never a pretty sight... its an awe-inspiring sight, but not a pleasant one. Since our son's arrival and after the standard six week healing process, he has literally come up with every reason he can not to make love to me. Is there anything that can be done to help him get over seeing me in the not-so-sexy moment and want to be physical with me again?
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Jul 06, 2009, 10:58 AM
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Hello kethree, it's nice to meet you, welcome to psych central.
Have you tried talking to him about the situation? Sometimes communication can help situations like this, another thing is have you tried to entice him with wearing something to perk his interest. For me post pregnancy sex is better then it was before and my hubby doesn't seem to have any complaints either. If you have any questions while navigating the site feel free to private message any community liaison or moderator, here is a link to a list of forum leaders. http://forums.psychcentral.com/showgroups.php 
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Jul 07, 2009, 03:47 AM
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Sounds like he is having trouble seeing you as his lover after witnessing the birth of your child.... give him some time and then remind him that you are still the same woman you were before you got pregnant - seduce him when the time is right (lights, sound, sexy outfit, food, scent).
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Jul 07, 2009, 04:13 AM
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This is incredibly common.. It may take some work to get past it however.
Men Tend to think in two ways - 1 - as you said, he did see something graphic, and what looked like probably hurt you quite a bit.. and following that.. 2- He may be afraid of hurting you after seeing that, because men tend to be very protective. Best thing you can do is sit down and talk it out. You may even want to go so far as doing some exposure therapy  If you are the adventurous type.. You dont have to have sex, or even really fool around, but perhaps if he is able to see it doesnt look like that now nor are you hurt down there now, it will help to ease his mind.I would confront him on his making excuses though. I wouldnt be mean about it or anything just say "it feels like you have alot of reasons to not have sex right now. I think we should talk through that" Also try googling "husband doesnt want sex after baby/birth/childbirth.... Its extremely common! |
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