[aria83]

This story might be hard to follow. Here it is (I need feedback too):
When I feel lonely, I start to think about this guy who kind of hurt my feelings back in May. I liked him A LOT, in that I wanted to date him. I put my feelings out there to him and he said he wanted to get to know me, but he couldn't because I get services from the place he works and he didn't want to lose his job. He was on my facebook and I said hi to him on his page once and he said back that he was tired of facebook's bs. I wrote to him bc I didn't know if his hostility was directed at me and he said sorry he didn't mean to be a jerk and that he thought what he said was kind of mean. After that I took him off my facebook, was upset, cried, and tried to forget about him. I still have really strong feelings for him though and I don't know why. I just do and I want to reach out again, but I don't want to get hurt. He really hurt me and that scares me to put myself out there agian just to get hurt.

[jerrymichele]

I would move on from him. I would call this infatuation. I wouldn't say that your obsessed with him. Maybe he lead you to think there was something more than there was. Not all guys are jerks.

[Emotionally Dead]

Aw dear... Don't let someone like that do that to you. I can already tell, he is not worth it. I understand your feelings, I have had something similar happen to me, but don't get yourself infatuated with him. It's not worth it. You sound sweet and I know you can find someone who will treat you right. Try your best to move on from him. If he does change, that would be one thing, but if he is going to change and try to get to know you then he will do it himself. Best of luck, and I am here if you need to talk.

[marjan]

Move on quickly and run run run....good that you deleted him from your Facebook...If I were you, I would have block him in my facebook to not see anything about him!
My personal experience, if the guy doesn't make the first move at the very begining of knowing you, then he would never do that....
Sweet heart you are just wasting your time by thinking about him...I know it's so hard....I'm like you too....I'm still obsess with my ex-boyfriend, although I know he's not right for me and he hurt me so many times....but now, I'm not letting that happen again....
Make yourself busy with different activities and move on....you can do that...
and frankly, I don't think even you like him, it's just because he's been rejecting you and you are hurt....

Best of luck to you
Marjan

[valexand]

You are not obsessed. You're just alone. I also have this. My mind keeps going to the faces of guys that are nothing more than memories. Sometimes I let go of my anger for how they treated me and sometimes the anger comes rolling back in. Especially when loneliness hits hard.

If I knew how to save myself from this....I would have done it a looong time ago. At some point I had picked up jogging and swimming, which somehow kept my mind off of those feelings. Maybe the answer is there.

[aria83]

Thanks so much guys. I really appreciate all your supportive comments. I do not plan to contact him. I'm still not sure whether it's obsessed or infatuation, but thanks for your thoughts. And, yeah, I agree, getting out more and keeping busy will help me feel much better. Thanks

[gagirlinpc]

VALEXAND put it best. You are just alone. I have been there so many times. For some reason, it just gives you something to focus your hurt and loneliness on. That man isn't considering you one bit. And honestly, i have figured out that when you are walking around feeling this way, it shows and you are really keeping light, and hope out of your life. You MUST change the way you think and let it happen for you naturally. Soon enough, you will be like who??????

[marjan]

Originally Posted by gagirlinpc

VALEXAND put it best. You are just alone. I have been there so many times. For some reason, it just gives you something to focus your hurt and loneliness on. That man isn't considering you one bit. And honestly, i have figured out that when you are walking around feeling this way, it shows and you are really keeping light, and hope out of your life. You MUST change the way you think and let it happen for you naturally. Soon enough, you will be like who??????

gagirlinpc is so so right....when you feel bad...it shows so much....
When I get jealous, I feel I steank and everybody can smell my jealousy....and my jealousy is always towards those that I love or like....then the guy is smelling my jealousy and he makes me more and more jealous....when I am not jealous anymore...then he stops making me jealous....this means everything is just in our mind...that's it!
I wish there was a way to switch our brain to positive and beautiful things....

take care
Marjan