[thunderbear]

I really do. My friends call to check on me and they invite me to go out with them. I have'nt heard from my family in a few years. Even my own sister don't want to talk to me. When my son was in the hospital with a rare and almost fatal diesese, none of my family came or offered prayer two of my aunts called only to tell me I didnt care about my other son because I did'nt call my grandmother to check on him and the reason my little one was sick was because of the way I acted years before and it was God's way of punishing me. I'm like, my 18 month old son may be dying and you call with this crap?? Oh well. I am better off without them. All they ever wanted to do is put me down anyway. They had a big family cookout this past weekend. My whole family was there but no one told me about it. I don't care. Let them be like that. At least I can say I tried.

[marjan]

dear thunderbear,

You should be happy that you have good friends around you.
Family is not your choice, but your friends are.....

take care
Marjan

[Queenie55]

IT is a hard thing to go through- it has happened to me and
the end result is worth it

[Lost71]

((((thunderbear)))) advance apologies if what I'm about to say upsets you, it isn't meant to...

you know the saying you can choose your friends but can't choose your family?

it sounds like you have chosen your friends well, thunderbear

Peace,
Julia
xox

[VickiesPath]

(((((((((((thunderbear)))))))))))))))

My entire adult life, even after first being diagnosed with major depression (which was wrong ) my family never came to assist me in anything. Then as my illness got worse and worse, it was my best friend who was always there for me, not family. My family never bothered. Of course, my parents were deep into their alcoholic lives and my siblings were into their disfunctional lives so I'm not sure what I was hoping for.

My only friend, my best friend who was always there for me, died 12 years ago. I was never as good a friend for her. I regret that. I sat in the hospital room with her after they removed her right breast, part of her chest wall and the lymph node under her arm. I felt so useless.

So, I can understand why you like your friends more. I am very envious that you have friends. I have messed up in my adult life and let my tendency to isolate run rampant. Cherish those friends. They are gold.

[jerrymichele]

Thunderbear I'm so sorry. Your aunts' are something else. They have some nerve saying crap like that to you when your baby was so sick. Personally I wouldn't want to be around them if they want to act like that. That is really low. I also haven't spoken to my family in a couple of years. They have some issues that I just can't stand to be around. The farther they are away from me, the happier I am. It might sound mean, but it's the truth. I can make my own self feel like crap. I certainly don't need their help with that.