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Jul 30, 2009, 11:23 PM
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well, i have written a goodbye letter to my crackhead friend on his myspace. I did it just for me, for closure. The results feel like it. I did not do it out of anger, but out of honor (mine). I forgave both of us but let him know this was goodbye. I said i wished i had known him before he got involved with anything illegal, that i wondered if he had a gentle soul, if he once cared for the earth and all the creatures on it. If he had ever had that one great love in his life. Told him i cared about him but i am content to care from afar. I wished him well and that this was goodbye. I do not think i did a bad thing... Thoughts anyone? love, nuckingfutz
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Jul 31, 2009, 12:16 AM
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{{{{{Nucking}}}}}  i think you did exactly what you needed to do to move on....and in my book that was the right thing. You need to take care of you first,and in order to move on and be healthy i believe this was the thing to do.Now just keep looking towards the future...you will get stronger from this whole experience and be happier to boot.Dead weight drags us down,he wasnt a healthy thing for you,and i am very proud of you  Take care 
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Jul 31, 2009, 12:59 AM
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thanks want2! It felt so freeing! I do not care if he even reads it. Not that i would know if he reads it. I think it gives me the boyant long lasting energy i need to finish cleaning my house. Now that i have kicked out my roommate, i can turn this place back into my home. It looked like a disaster area after he left! But i am even moving furniture around. It is going to look great. I can't believe how much trash and junk he left around! Should look great in here after i am done. I can turn my radio on loud. I probably won't turn on the tv for at least 2 weeks! No more landscape dirt in my sink or tub. The last person who leased this place died of a crack overdose. His friends kept coming by...not anymore! Mine! Mine! Now this is lesbian territory! I sure hope i feel like this in the morning so i can finish cleaning. You know i have been under more stress than i realised.
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Jul 31, 2009, 12:58 PM
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 ...so now things should be alot less stressful for you!!! Time for you to enjoy yourself girl......take care
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Jul 31, 2009, 10:19 PM
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I think closure is a good thing, and I'm glad you could get it.
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Aug 13, 2009, 04:15 PM
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CH called me today...as soon as I heard his voice I hung up on him. The guy makes me sick! Blech! Yuck! My first victory. Maybe I'll do something boring tonight like watch tv or read and thank my lucky stars I don't have a sweaty crackhead hiding in my closet from his girlfriend. So glad I moved on!
Love, NuckingFutz
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NuckingFutz, National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD National Dom Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE  
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Aug 13, 2009, 04:46 PM
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good for you for being so strong....I wish I could have done the same.... I'm just so weak.... you know when he just left me without even breaking up, then we had one more night stand, and you know what I told him...I said I don't want to talk about relationships....that's why I'm going mad right now thinking that I've never had closure with him! You did absolutely a great thing to write him a letter and feel better....you don't need him anymore! take care Marjan |
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Aug 13, 2009, 04:57 PM
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Excellent NuckingFutz, I find that writing is great therapy for closure in relationships. I have done that in two of my previous relationships. Now anytime I have anything going with me I write it down to get it out. This is you first big step in moving on. Now your hand and heart can be free for the new things that are in store for you:-) Good Luck at your meetup:-)
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Aug 14, 2009, 02:10 PM
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Thanks! I do feel compassion for the gf...i tried to warn her. She has proof that he lies and cheats and steals and uses crack while on probation and still lets him live with her. Oh man...i thought i had low self-esteem! This guy could be the poster child for men not to date.
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#10
Aug 14, 2009, 02:33 PM
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Congratulations!! Enjoy your new space and your new freedom, i am glad you wrote to him, its all over in your mind now, move on to better things, have a great weekend!!
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Aug 14, 2009, 05:30 PM
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Thanks! Writing was easy...hearing his voice and hanging up on him was hard. Yeah i was just to smart and to good for him. Poor gf but it was her choice.
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#12
Aug 19, 2009, 11:37 AM
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Man i am so glad to have no contact with these people. I forgot to tell my brother who did a criminal backround check on this guy. Well, the results are in...forgery, felony larceny, domestic violence, illegal entry of a habitation, assault, attempted rape.
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Aug 20, 2009, 12:54 PM
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