Internet Relationships???

you'll have to keep me posted rappacinisgarden

Yes, I think so, lol I think I needed to share this out somewhere, bcause I was going crazy... I have an exam on tuesday, a strong one, and it's so hard for me to concentrate ...lol But anway, we just live life only once !!!

Carpe Diem

Good Luck on your exam...but do try to keep your mind on the exam for a little while just ...I really think tihngs will work out just fine. Just take one day at a time and savor the moment.

welll all i can say is that each time i like this person much more ....

((((((((rapp)))))))) ...I'm glad it's working out for you!

wish could say same here.

I did. It was positive for awhile...until we allowed it to become real life. I recommend REALLY REALLY getting to know him for a long time first! Be careful!

wow! How many posts!

Yes...the internet today...has got us the opportunity to have a virtual life..

I had lots of virtual realtionships friendly and...a few potentially romantic.

in 2007 i met 2 guy son myspace and one wanted to date...after a few months of emails. we exchanged cell phones and met. Then he realized what i already felt - we were too different people.

There is another relationship going on and off - friend - from another country - and once it turned our romantically - we started writing to each other like we imagine we meet...but since we could `t meet he became sad and stopped and we came back to be friends. We write each other till now.

Now there is someone on Myspace complimenting me and again he is from another country and he invites me to go there lol. funny. I personally don`t get it because i think that people should develop an ordinary relationship too. Friendly i mean.

I had been to dates using a dating site....not much from that - oh - well - one boyfriend i got from "cupid" we "met" there but did `t chat online much. the second "mail" to my site inbox was a request for my phone number and then it all went pretty well..i would say LOVELY... until after about 3 months i did something that caused him an anxiety attack or something like that (he has OCD but i suspect its not all of it) and he got rid of me all of the sudden. then again we came back together and then again broke up and then he said "I don`t know what i want" once. We stay friends. Hardly in touch these days.

There is another online relationship... very significant and exciting for me! Started on singing forums..but this is going to be a looong post and if i am going ot share some of it ..i will do it some other time

thanks everybody for sharing your online experience!
I think that internet relationships are another for of relationships and like anything in life can turn both to th good and to the bad

the last thing i wanted to say on this post is that i think we shouldn`t be pushing or expecting anything but going with the flow...and see. Enjoy it but not depend on it.Stay open to possibilities

Anything can happen!

Thanks, this is really sensible advice. Like even when folks talk every day on Skype...it's not the same as being with each other IRL. Finding out each others quirky habits, or discovering one has smelly feet, or your own morals and theirs don't entirely match up etc. I think even when meeting up in real life, it should be took slow at first with a certain amount of caution. No point being hurt IRL over what was a beautiful online dream.

Peace,
Julia
xox

Thanks ((((((Lady)))))) that is also sensible advice.

Peace and Care,
Julia
xox

hi - this has been a very interesting thread so far - tons of great comments and insights!

of course i had to chime in, lol. here's my comment on internet relationships.....

my 5 year relationship (that included marriage and immigration to another country on my part) ended during christmas 08. in desperation i joined my first ever online forum, for support. (not this forum) and i did find much support, many friends. some have come and gone - others turned out to be extremely unstable, lol. six people have become real life friends - we have exchanged pictures, telephone numbers, and i plan to meet all of them, at some point, despite our varying cities/states/countries. my 7th real life friend, well, i met him there too, and we fell in love

he had been there and his past had been resolved earlier and he stayed to support others. i was in the middle of my nightmare and he was a friend who even more than the others, helped me not only survive it, but to become stronger and start living again, instead of just breathing and enduring.

we both knew we were in love, at nearly the same time, we didn't plan on it happening, and we both continued to befriend and support the other - before we ended up making an almost simultaneous confession - there was no ambivalance from either of us. i have trust issues because of my prior experience, but he has been very patient and continues to be so.
within a few short days of our opening up about being in love, we saw each others pictures for the first time - not sure if we'd have been attracted if we did pics first - and i am saying that only because love DOES affect how we SEE someone. he and i loved first, 'saw', after. the attraction only grew from that point, and in just days we then ''graduated'' to telephone conversations.

we have used messenger chats, Skype talks, and he bought a phone plan that allows him to call me in the U.S. from his home in the U.K., for a very cheap amount a month, a few dollars - - - and we have unlimited calls. we are on a schedule to talk in order to have daily chats despite our six hour time difference, and we email daily, several times and we text as well.

in may we had our first REAL LIFE meeting, a week at his place. and it was real - we just wanted to make sure! it was as real as if we had been dating for months in real life, there was no difference. but keep in mind we have chatted and talked on the phone hours and hours and we have exchanged many many hundreds of letters. he is my best friend in the world - that is the foundation of our relationship. distance separates us for now - but i've never felt closer to anyone. he just returned to the U.K. from my place, we have just spent two wonderful weeks together. i just hung up from him, he has just walked in the door at his place, checking to see if all is still there, lol.

our plans are to struggle through the rigors of immigration red tape, so that we can be together.

we did MEET on the internet - but we both wanted to move beyond net communications, into real life. we had to do that by phone, at first. but as soon as we could manage it, we scheduled a real-life visit. we both felt it important to take our relationship OFF the net. sure, we daily use internet to keep in touch. but, our daily phone calls and texts are very important (texts are still very personal instant ways of exchanging thoughts. txt messages help us keep in constant touch even when one of us is working, and can't speak, etc.) but we KNOW we must do whatever is possible to continue to arrange FACE TIME together.

this is possible even if there are time/distance/financial restraints. both people can save towards one ticket for example. nothing is impossible.

sometimes love that we find when we are not expecting it - becomes the sweetest and most precious.
from a song . . . ""call out to love - it will answer you""

best wishes

sweetypie, thanks for sharing this, it's a beautiful story. You're right that you really do need to meet up face to face to be sure it's real. I'm so glad that you both are so sure of what you want and are working together to get there.

All my best wishes you can both be together permanently soon, hun,
Julia
xox

I am still really enjoying my relationship... I like it forever more..And yeah I am surprised at some of my feelings... Of course, i still think reality is important u know. But internet is important to convey thoughts and know the inside at least. And well also u can search for diff ways to communicate: make a vid of yourself, write something, share sites, talk about the ppl around u(family, friends, etc...), etc and finally at the end take a risk to know each other for real. Express yourself!!

I know this post has been around awhile but I'm a newbie and just saw it. Once back in the 90s I was home sick from work and bored to tears. I didn't have a computer but my daughter did and she showed me how chatrooms worked. I told her thx but no thx because you KNOW if they're on the internet then they're all serial killers right? :P She showed me how they had chatrooms for things like books, movies, etc. so I went into a books chatroom because I like to read and thought maybe I'd hear of a new author to check out. I made friends with a couple people there and we joined each others email lists for jokes, book talk, etc. Before long one person stood out. He lived on the other side of the country from me but I'd felt like I'd known him my whole life.
Flash forward to today. We've been together 12 yrs and he's the love of my life. We married, have a beautiful 9 yr old daughter and he's my rock. He moved across the country to be with me when we both realized we had something special.

You can definitely meet someone special online. Just remember that you have to use your common sense and go with your gut. If something gives you pause for suspicion then there's a reason. Good luck, I hope you find happiness online or not

Hi, well this is an update to my online relationship... Well, I anm really enjoying mine and we are making plans already on how to meet each other IRL. I think this is really important if u want to keep on going. Reality is very importatn in this type of relationships. Just a gentle reminder: I'm in Spain and he's in tx, and well working out how to meet is really exciting. I recommend also, though I know it's difficult because of the feelings that have already come up in between each other, that keeping grounded is basic and that above all friendship is a priority.

I've never had an online relationship b4, and never would of believed in them if wouldn't have happened to me... But I have been talking to alot of ppl, and it seems that it's happening all around. Many friends have come up that have got married and all, so yes, an online relationship is for true if u take care of it as much as an offline one. I take it as if I was knowing someone inwards out, lol And I always remeber that not everything is perfect and I always try to convey what I really am..

Yes, and he was wonderful. It IS possible.
Joy

still happy !!!

While I have never done the internet dating thing I have a strong curiosity among my friends who do and I follow them closely. People do meet online and have success, no doubt about that. Extreme caution is what I've gathered from those who do it as little investment is required and sharing emotions online can be as painful as doing it in person should you be betrayed in any way. Depending on your situation, it may be the best option for you, just be very careful as deception seems to be the norm. Good luck, I hope you find the right one.