[SimplyJane]

Hello, I have never posted to a forum before so I hope if I do something wrong a teacher will arise. I read something about a "trigger" and the person who posted said they included one in that post. However, to a new person looking at the post, it had several icons and various other buttons. I apologize for not including it because I am not sure what I am supposed to include, nor how to do it.

I am here for a condition I haven't found on any other posts. I don't like children. Can someone please direct me to the correct forum to discuss this?

Thank you, SimplyJane

[hurtingintn]

hello and welcome to pc

[Naturefreak]

(((Simplyjane)))

[wileycoyte]

Welcome and i may sound wierd but do you have to like children? Hope you find all the answers ...... Have a great day

[Dwayne61]

Hi and welcome to PC!

[DePressMe]

Hi SimplyJane, I had a long period of my life when I did not like children. It was a protective ploy I used to cover up my true feelings and problems. I was able to work through it and now, I am very interested in helping teens get through life. I don't know if your issue is like mine or not, but I would be happy to share my thoughts and listen to your thoughts about not liking kids. Please, try to not judge yourself in a negative way because of these feelings.

Welcome to PC. I hope to see you around on the forums.

[SimplyJane]

Thank you everyone for the welcome.
Is there a more appropriate forum where I might find help with my problem of not liking children? It seem that one is supposed to find a forum that most nearly matches their problem and I didn't see anything like this listed.

[SimplyJane]

Originally Posted by wileycoyte

Welcome and i may sound wierd but do you have to like children? Hope you find all the answers...... Have a great day

According to society we are supposed to like children. I can remember that even as a child, I preferred the company and conversations of adults. When I was told to play with other children I remember thinking, "They are so stupid. I don't want to do that." I preferred playing by myself to playing with other kids. The first time I ever remember hearing of someone else not liking kids was in the 70's when I heard WC Field's opinion on children. It was a relief because for years I thought I was the only one. Still, there is this societal understanding that "everyone loves kids".This is why I think there must be something wrong with me.

[Christina86]

Originally Posted by SimplyJane

Hello, I have never posted to a forum before so I hope if I do something wrong a teacher will arise. I read something about a "trigger" and the person who posted said they included one in that post. However, to a new person looking at the post, it had several icons and various other buttons. I apologize for not including it because I am not sure what I am supposed to include, nor how to do it.

Hi SimplyJane, the trigger icon is this one:

Welcome to PC!

[Porcelain_doll_2004]

Hello and Welcome to PC!

[VickiesPath]

Originally Posted by DePressMe

Hi SimplyJane, I had a long period of my life when I did not like children. It was a protective ploy I used to cover up my true feelings and problems. I was able to work through it and now, I am very interested in helping teens get through life. I don't know if your issue is like mine or not, but I would be happy to share my thoughts and listen to your thoughts about not liking kids. Please, try to not judge yourself in a negative way because of these feelings.

Welcome to PC. I hope to see you around on the forums.

Thanks, DePressMe, that was really great of you to share this with Jane.

I, too, experienced something similar to what you are describing during a long period in my life. I'd be glad to share it with you at some point because it changed later. I am not sure that we exactly have a section that is dedicated to an avoidance of children however, you might spend a little time reading through some of the posts and see if there is anything that you identify with. There is a lot of sharing that goes on and it all isn't related directly to mental illnesses but more to healthy living. Glad you are here with us. Welcome!

[Seabirdanne]

Originally Posted by SimplyJane

Hello, I have never posted to a forum before so I hope if I do something wrong a teacher will arise. I read something about a "trigger" and the person who posted said they included one in that post. However, to a new person looking at the post, it had several icons and various other buttons. I apologize for not including it because I am not sure what I am supposed to include, nor how to do it.
Thank you, SimplyJane

I had a problem with the trigger icon, too. On my computer, you have to write a long time before that group of icons comes up. I just couldn't find it -- and of course I couldn't ask! -- so I tried not to write anything that needed a trigger! One day I scrolled down further than I thought and found it. They should move it up on the side and put a box around it or something, make it a big button or something more obvious. Anyway, welcome to pc!

[roxyskater]

Hello and welcome to Phych Central. I hope you find all the support and encouragement you are looking for. I dont think you HAVE to like kids Im sure you are not the only one who feels this way. Do you have any children ??

SIncerely,

Roxy

[Soidhonia]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central. Take care. Soidhonia

[depressedalaskan]

to PC. All of your thoughts and questions are welcomed here. Do not be afraid to join in. This is a great place for everyone who enters.

[SimplyJane]

Roxy, I have 2 grown sons and yes, 5 grandkids. I try to visit them when I can (they don't live close) but find I have to limit the time I spend with them or I get too edgy & irritated. I thought of my time spent raising my sons as "doing the time for my crime". Raising my sons (single mom for 1/2 their time at home) was very, very hard. During the times that they would push me over my limit I found coping methods to deal with it. Mostly, repression of reactions and feelings because I knew I HAD to get thru those years. When the last one left home I had a wonder feeling of relief and I threw a little party for myself for just making it to that point.

Originally Posted by roxyskater

Hello and welcome to Phych Central. I hope you find all the support and encouragement you are looking for. I dont think you HAVE to like kids Im sure you are not the only one who feels this way. Do you have any children ??

SIncerely,

Roxy

[VickiesPath]

Originally Posted by SimplyJane

Roxy, I have 2 grown sons and yes, 5 grandkids. I try to visit them when I can (they don't live close) but find I have to limit the time I spend with them or I get too edgy & irritated. I thought of my time spent raising my sons as "doing the time for my crime". Raising my sons (single mom for 1/2 their time at home) was very, very hard. During the times that they would push me over my limit I found coping methods to deal with it. Mostly, repression of reactions and feelings because I knew I HAD to get thru those years. When the last one left home I had a wonder feeling of relief and I threw a little party for myself for just making it to that point.

Wow, I understand how it could be a relief for you. It's funny but I understand what you mean. My situation is very different. I had my son late in life, age 41, and he was a blessing that I had prayed for (long story since I stated previously I didn't like children). But at age 14, he decided he wanted to move back to Kansas where we are from and live with his biological dad and attend high school there. Even though I knew ahead of time that this is what he was wanting to do, it was not easy to let him go. I really had a hard time with it and still do whenever he comes back on breaks and then leaves again. But, my husband and I are growing used to the freedom of him not being here. It's a mixed bag, really.

[depressedalaskan]

to PC. All of your thoughts and questions are welcomed here. Do not be afraid to join in. This is a great place for everyone who enters. I don't know what forum to use. But welcome.

[lily56]

Hello SimplyJane - I have two of my own but otherwise I'm not overly fond of them myself. Some people don't like spiders, so why can't others not like children? I have to admit though, sometimes they can grow up to be rather interesting adults....on the other hand I know a four year old which seems to be the spawn of satan....... welcome

[SimplyJane]

Thank you so much for this encouragement. I loved your analogy of some people not liking spiders! Since I had never met anyone who felt the same way...I figured I must be wrong. I've gone thru the whole, "What happened to me in the past to make me this way?" internal digging but couldn't find anything. I agree that many can grow up to be very interesting and engaging adults. I think that 4 year old lives next door to me. He's got light brown hair, destructive, rude and totally verifies my initially stated problem. Which if one looks at it like spiders, it is not a problem.

Originally Posted by lily56

Hello SimplyJane - I have two of my own but otherwise I'm not overly fond of them myself. Some people don't like spiders, so why can't others not like children? I have to admit though, sometimes they can grow up to be rather interesting adults....on the other hand I know a four year old which seems to be the spawn of satan....... welcome