[myoasis89]

I feel really hurt because I was trying hard to find sexy clothes which make me look nice. I thought I found some. When i showed my bf a picture, I asked if I looked good...he said it was nice...I got really hurt because I wanted him tos ay I was beautiful or pretty or sexy. He told me I was getting there....I wanted to cry...I don't feel desirable and I haven't felt this way yet,...and I'm 20

[jerrymichele]

OMG what was he thinking? My bf did something like this to me once, and I told him something that I didn't like about him. You should try this, so the next time he will learn to shut his mouth.





PS. It works

[Pomegranate]

LOL! I think michele's advice is very good. No one is perfect, some people need to be reminded of that.

[Trying & Caring]

Do not let this kind of thing take control of you. Get some self esteem so you don't need to have his reassurance. I'm only speaking for myself--but I've been w/my husband (boyfriend since 15; he was 16) & sex was a big part of our relationship. So now YEARS later (I'm 55) I had to go on meds for bipolar & gained weight & he told me he no longer found me sexually attractive (3 yrs. ago) & I overdosed. Ended up in the ER & needing major therapy & treatment for 2 1/2 yrs. before I could not cry all the time. Of course, he didn't know I would react that way, but I am overly sensitive due to lots of other stuff (mother's suicide & father telling me she killed herself because she was losing her looks--when she was suffering from a severe case of bipolar).

But I had those ideas in my head...

Now he has an "epiphany" & says he was wrong & wants to start a sexual relationship again. I feel like he destroyed that part of my life. I don't know...

If he had given me unconditional love 3 yrs. before & I didn't have the OD--but now? How can I recover? I've finally come to terms w/the loss of that part of my life & his disgust w/me...

I'm not suicidal anymore & then he throws this at me! Like--why couldn't he have this epiphany before he killed my soul?

[bridgie]

You shld be happy with yourself first and if you think you look good than who cares what your man said. Exude confidence even if you don't feel it and he will think you are gorgeous because he will think you are happy with yourself.and that is the sexiest thing

[Blubaby]

Hi there,

We ladies are always wanting to hear our loved ones say we look sexy, beautiful or something of that sort... this includes me too.. (I kind of glow secretly when someone says I'm beautiful..

But I think by doing that we are being vain... We should not be like that... It is not your outer beauty that is worth your entire life on earth, but the one that is inside you... Your success in life is counted when you are recognized by your inner beauty.. This recognition is not only from your loved ones but also from the people around you.. That is where you should shine...

Your outer beauty is just a small blessing/ gift from God.. If He decides that You'd enough of it, He will take it back. Its just so easy for Him. You could fall face down on the road and alas! you could end up breaking your jaw bone or something.. you could end up burning your face.. And where is your so called beauty??

same with your lovely body that you value..... some small disease could disfigure your whole outlook... so I think the best thing to do is groom your innerself and accordingly your outer self would shine more and more...

good luck...