just a question

okay so for years I have been in and out of bad bad bad relationships. I am currently not in a relationship and haven't been in well over a year.

there is a guy that I am talking to a lot anymore and he is around a lot. He really cares and knows about almost all of my health problems and he is still wanting to hang out and do things with me. I am not sure how to react to this. Well he is also very supportive of me and what health issues I have and only wants to see me healthy. This is another piece I don't know how to deal with since most guys in my past have left me due to my issues being too much to deal with. Then he is still letting me have my life and do the things that I love to do. I don't know about this either. I have always had to give up what I love to keep the guy happy. I don't even know what normal is when it comes to this all.

I am scared to get too close. I am afraid this is all too good to be true and that I must be missing something. I am just very scared to even hang out too much for I could get attached and I am not sure if I would know what to do.

What would people do in this situation?

Sorry for my babble. I know there isn't much advice anyone could give I just needed to vent this all.

Thanks,

Doll

If he says that he likes you like he does than I would stay friends with him until you can trust him. Hope it works out for you.

Hi Doll,

I am not....I repeat NOT.....a relationship expert. If you knew me personally, you would agree. But I have learned some things about ME through the years that I sure would like to share with you.

I used to think that me, the way I was, was not good enough for any guy to like me. So, I had to magically change in some way, ANY way, in order for him to like me. It's taken me over 40 years to realize that there was never anything wrong with me. I was perfectly OK the way I was, warts and all. Even with the "problems" I had.

The second thing I would like to share with you is that one of the biggest mistakes I ever made was to give up doing the things that made me happy in order to please a man or make room for the things he wanted me to do. Yep, I did it. And not only once. I made so many concessions in my life, I ended up resenting the guy I was with and I didn't even know it.

Now, at age 56, I am finally learning that I did all these things and I am trying to reclaim some of those parts of me that I gave up. It is not easy to do now. It makes me sad that I made those mistakes.

You are worth all the self-care you can muster. You are worth looking out for your own heart. You are worth being able to continue pursuing the activities that make your heart sing. You are doing the right thing by keeping your boundries in line.

By taking things slowly you can be sure that you are not letting your impulses run away with you. Good for you, Doll.