Feel like giving up!

I sometimes wonder why I even bother fighting when the other person I am with seems like they could care less about me, but is willing to help out any other person and be there for them to talk to. But when I need my partner they don't even seem to notice. Maybe I should just give up! I am tired of feeling this way, I cry myself to sleep, I just no longer have interest anymore in anything I use to like doing. I shouldn't be feeling this way but I am!

(((((((((((((shooting_star)))))))))))))))

I put up with somthing simlar to this for fifteen years in the end I left it was the best thing I have ever done.

I've recently left the very same situation of 15 years...and although I'm still in the adjustment phase of the seperation, I can contest that it has brought me great peace.

The only change you can create is that for yourself. It's only a matter of time until you realize that enough is enough. I can only hope that you are much wiser than I was, listen to what your instincts are telling you NOW while it's still early, and save yourself years of misery that will only lead you to making that very same decision, anyway. Not to mention that the longer you wait, the older you are and the harder it WILL be to start over again.

I'm sorry that you're going through this.
Be your own best friend and do what's best for you.

I wish you the best.

Shangrala

hey hon

i'm so sorry for what you are going through

you sound so very sad

have you tried talking this over, with your partner?
are they willing to listen?

for myself, i was once in a relationship where i was not getting any of my needs met, yet i was trying so hard to meet HIS needs.

eventually i had to face the fact that he was not going to meet any of my needs and in fact didn't care that they were going unmet.
i moved on - and i did find a partner who cares very much about what i need, and tries hard to give it to me
time, caring, affection and attention - and he 'hears' me when i speak.

i hope you can find what you need - but sweetie life is way too short to continue being in a desert of a relationship.
i wish you the very best
here if you want to talk

Hey girl,

Speaking from experience. I am in the middle of getting separated from my partener and losing my home and I know how it feels to be in a one sided relationship.

If you feel that your needs are not being met, then communicate that to your partener and if nothing changes, move on, and believe I know it's easier said than done but I'm right where you are right now. He didn't tell me he wanted to sell the house and end our relationship until he had already found someone else and was already over me, and now I'm stuck living in the same house with him as roommates, and it's torture because I'm still in love with him and he looks at me like I'm nothing, but looking back to the six years I spent with him, I always listened to him and gave him everything he wanted, and even sacrificed my desire to start a family and get married because he didn't want those things, and he still left, so it was always one sided. I'm 37 and it's going to be hard to find someone that's going to want the same things as I do at my age than if I were younger. It's going to hurt whether you stay or leave, but be strong and listen to your head, not just your heart, and you'll be okay. We'll all get through this together.

Best of luck.

Deedee

I know how you feel. I think other people gave some pretty good advice. You should do what you feel is right I guess.