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Sep 22, 2009, 09:41 PM
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I've been on edge lately. Way stressed out. Irritable to no end for no reason. I don't know what it is. The neighbor kids that come over drive me nuts. I can't stand their voices or how they want to come in all the time and play with my son. But its not really my son its his toys they always make a big mess and argue and be mean so I can't stand them anymore. Well today I was not very nice to them they asked if they cld come in I said no they asked if aid cld come out I said no. So they go away for awhile and then one comes back asking me to use my glue. The only glue I have and was lucky to find and was using to build my sons rocket. So I said no I can't give u my glue can't call u when I'm done with it you just can't take my glue bcz I'm crabby. Very very crabby. I'm just not in a good mood well now I feel a ltl guilty for letting my problems cause me to take it out on innocents.
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Sep 22, 2009, 11:35 PM
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(((HUG))) we all have crabby days hon it's ok here if you need to talk 
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Sep 23, 2009, 09:17 AM
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I don't think you were being mean or crabby. Simply, some days the answer will be yes, others no. You weren't being mean IMO. |
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Sep 23, 2009, 11:52 AM
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I have an 8 year old, and the kids always want to come over. I have no problem at all telling them no.
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Sep 23, 2009, 04:47 PM
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{{{Bridgie}}}
It's hard when kids don't understand boundries. We have imposed boundries on our daughters since they were born (even if they didn't understand it then). My mom was a kindergarten/1st grade teacher for 36 years and still subs. More and more she has seen where the parents are more interested in being liked by their children rather than being a parent. As a result, a lot of these kids end up thinking the rules don't apply to them since they don't apply at home. It may have taken you having a cranky day to do it, but you are establishing boundries on the neighborhood kids and what they can and can not do in/at your home. Hang in there! 
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Sep 24, 2009, 04:07 PM
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I agree with the other posters. I have 2 young girls and these are the guidlines that I have them follow. No one comes in unless they ask permission first and the visiting needs to be a 2 way street - meaning if you host a child one day then the next time they should go to the other kids house and so on. If any children mis -behave then they should go home. If a mess is made, the children need to help clean up the mess, before they leave or your child needs to clean up.
Regarding the glue - it wasn't an unreasonable thing for you to say I can't give you the glue. But next time if I were you - you don't have to add that you're grouchy and that's why you can't comply. If perfectly fine to just say "NO" without feeling you need to explain. I think women in particular get caught in the trap of always feeling like we need to please everyone. If you start setting up boundaries like I mentioned them you'll feel you have more of a choice, in what goes on in YOUR house. Your house shouldn't be a constant revolving door and that way you will not feel so aggravated when they do come - because it will be your choice. You don't always need to be Mrs. Nice all the time. Best of luck.
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Sep 25, 2009, 10:06 AM
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Thanks everyone I have tried setting boundaries with these kids before but it seemed to go in one ear and out the other and I'm to the point I don't want them over at my place at all and just their voices annoy the crap out of me now. Its horrible. The one ltl boy says that my son is his best friend and I don't want to ruin their friendship bcz of something I did. There are even times my son will tell me they are not allowed over anymore bcz he gets tired of having to clean up the messes alone. For me its just easier to never let them in. I just get so anxious when ppl are around and in my home. I get panick attacks when they start knocking on my door. Anyway thanks for the advice.
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Sep 25, 2009, 11:57 AM
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I am not a medical or mental health professional, nor do I play one on TV, I just talk kinda like one! Blessed are the cracked for they let in the light! They say I have A.D.D. but I think they are full off... Oh look! A CHICKEN! Be careful how you look at the world, it may look back! How do you want to be seen? |
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Sep 27, 2009, 06:58 AM
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You have a right to say no.
I have the same issue. I feel like such a b. when I have set boundaries. But we have to. It's hard, I know. ((()))'s. billi |
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