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#1
Oct 29, 2009, 06:57 AM
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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years, he recently told me about this friend of his who may come back to town soon. is it acceptable that he goes to dinner w her to catch up?
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Oct 29, 2009, 07:53 AM
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I go by the ground rule of "if it was here before I." As in my smoking, I was doing it before my gf so she can't bark about it. This is way different.
I guess the main question is did he invite you to come along? If not why? Did they ever have a relationship? on & on But here is the sad reality we have & we live w/... If he would go to dinner & they end up falling for each other & he ends up leaving you, then that's the very sad reality we live. But if it could happen now it could happen in 10 or 20 yrs so might as well get it out now. It would bother me to now end but I would bite my tounge if my gf ws to go out w/ an old guy friend in fear of them falling. But in the same time if it happens it was bound to happen and now matter how hard it may be it would only be harder down the road. Plus, I do truely love my gf & know that I might not be "the best" for her. So, it would suck & f&ck me up for long time but I want her to be happy in life. I hold her above my own life so if that's what makes her happy then I would let her go. I'm very sry you're dealing w/ this as even sitting here thinking about tthe siuation is now freaking me out! I wish the best & what happens is what happens. |
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Oct 29, 2009, 04:30 PM
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Welcome to pc.
 IMO since you just found out about her than I would say NO. I think that I would be upset with my bf just for talking about the dinner thing. Sounds funny to me.
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Oct 29, 2009, 04:41 PM
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If you had an old freind come into town...how would you like your boyfriend to respond to your catching up with him?
I have come to terms that relationships have nothing to do with ownership but everything to do with trust. I would personally have no problem with the situation you describe because I can trust myself... Does that sound back words? If I am comfortable in who and what I am...I can trust in that ,,,and in return I can feel comfortable with the people in my life doing things that the people in my life will do. If someone was to do something wrong,,it will be something they do wrong and there will be little I could do about it. Generally if someone is shopping,,,the cupboards are bare or they are shopaholics...  IMHO. Lenny
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Oct 29, 2009, 05:15 PM
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leogodess if it was me, and this is just my opinion, I would go on my gut feeling with this. If it doesn't feel right than it's not right.
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Oct 29, 2009, 07:40 PM
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Its not jelousy, its called common sence. Be glad you have it.
I dont trust it one bit neither btw. It doesnt make sense. I asked my fiancee, and he is throwing up the "OMG RED FLAG" Sign. Dont let him go, and tell him that its horribly rude! Hell, ask him how would he like it if you just went up to meet some "old friend that was a guy and we are randomly going to DINNER".... He wouldnt like it so much. |
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