[phoenix47baby]

I have one date with a new gentleman. I am my effervescent self and engage in good conversation over dinner. We go to a movie afterwards and hold hands. A good night peck ensues. Big deal. Within 24 hours of the date, I receive five e-mails about how i look like Kim Basinger and how wonderful I am! Geez. Hours later he mails me another e-mail as to his desire to send flowers and what is my address. That is too much. Four phone calls ensue. I write to him and tell him: "too much, too soon!" He writes back that he is crushed. He thought he made a connection. I am thinking that he is a stalker!

[Shangrala]

Perhaps assuming he is a stalker might be a bit much just yet?

Maybe he is smitten by your "effervescent self", and the fact that to him you resemble Kim, (in itself is quite a compliment, therefore you must be quite the looker).

You've made clear to him that he's moving too fast. Granted, he may be "crushed", but that's his issue to deal with, (and it is far soon for him TO feel so distraught over something as impersonal as a first date).

Maybe, allow him some time to come to terms with backing off some. If he persists as he's been, then you may have reason to feel he is something out of the norm? Hard to say.
How'd you feel about him during the date?
Maybe it's a good idea to just communicate through emails for a while to see what direction he will take this. See if he will listen to your requests and actually back off some. If so, maybe a second try is in order?

Hope this works out for you.

Shangrala

[phoenix47baby]

dear Shangrala,

thanks for your thoughts and comments. sending good thoughts your way.
phoenix47