[chgogirl37]

My boyfriend is Rapid Cycling Bipolar. I knew this from our first date. He was stable and on meds. We have been together for 16 months. In April of this year he bought a house and we moved in together along with 2 of my children( The other is in college)He has three of his own that we have about 40% of the time.Right after he bought the house he stopped going to his Dr and taking meds. He said he didn't need them anymore. Needless to say our relationship is in serious trouble. He is constantly angry for no apparent reason. He has never been a good communicator but before I moved in here he would always bring me flowers and we would talk about everything and nothing. We said this is forever and no matter what we will work it out. Counseling or whatever we need to stay together. He tells me that I am controlling his thoughts and that he cannot be himself with me because I always tell him how to feel or think or act which is NOT true. If he says he has offended me and I say that is not true then that is me controlling his thoughts and how he feels. I have asked him to go to therapy and he refuses to go saying we don't need that. This weekend he told me 1, 2 3( meaning me and my children) to get the F*** out. He doesnt want this anymore, he does not need this anymore, he cant talk to me and thinks he really never could. This was because he told my 12 year old son(screaming at the top of his lungs) That he is sick of his F****** holy than thou attitude. All my son said was that his son broke the brake on his bike so we had to get the part to fix it. I had to beg him to work on this because I feel it is worth it. I have asked him to go back to the dr and he says he will never go again cause he does not need it and will never take another med for his disorder. I think we have said 35 words to each other since Saturday afternoon. His oldest and my oldest heard him screaming at me.What am I suspose to do with this????

[Pomegranate]

Tell him if he doesn't go get help - and that you are willing to go with him - you will be leaving. Start preparing for that, save money, talk with your kids and when you and your children are in a good place to leave - GO! If he won't take responsibility for his mental health issues there really isn't much you can do. And staying with someone who is in the depths of his mental health problems is bad for everyone involved, especially your kids. Take care of yourself and your children.

[VickiesPath]

Does your community have a crisis line? My community has a crisis line where they will send people out if you are in the midst of a mental health crisis to mediate the situation and give an unbiased opinion regarding whether your boyfriend needs medical attention. Has he ever become physical? If so or even if he has ever threatened to become physical, this gives you the opportunity to telephone 911 and ask the police to intervene. They can require him to go to the ER and be evaluated. Neither of these two options results in charges being filed unless he actually strikes you or one of the children. If he threatens you, that is the signal to call 911. It is called assault. Assault does not mean actual physical contact. But it does allow you to call to 911. No charges will be filed as long as he is found mentally ill.

So, make your plans like Pomegranate said and do it quickly. In the meantime, keep these facts in mind and if he says anything that sounds like a threat of bodily harm, call 911 and they can take him to the ER.

Lots of hugs and best of luck.