[miray]

Okay...I have this friend who is wonderful in many ways. We get along great, have a really good time together, and she has a lot of great qualities. We also work together. Here is what is driving me crazy lately. She is constantly taking credit for work that isn't hers, blaming other people for her mistakes, late pretty much every day, and doing anything she can, that doesn't involve work. I have said several different things in a round about way several times, hoping she would get the point; and she usually does for awhile, then is starts right back up. I really think a lot of her outside of work, but what do I do about this?? Would love to hear any opinions.

[A_Long_ways]

How long have you known her? If only for a short period of time, it may just be her true personality finally coming to the surface. If you've known her for a while, and feel that your relationship is strong enough to give her real, strong, constructive criticizm, then tell her that she's making herself look like an idiot. Tell her that other people at work have been talking about her. Tell her how it makes you feel to see her screwing up like this. Perhaps she is just tired of the job and taking it as a joke now. Maybe she just needs a career change, who knows. If she's truely a friend, she should be able to take your advice rather than blow it off and ignore you.

[miray]

I have know her for a couple years and I think you have part of both right. She is the type who doesn't mind stepping on other people to get to the top and she also is a vengeful type of person. She doesn't seem to be that way with me usually, but can see some of that changing. Much of the credit and blame I was talking about was to and from me. I guess that is what hurts the most. I don't know why I would think to be different, but you have to live and learn. I guess I just need to learn to take her for what she is and go on??? Thank you so much for your advise a_long_ways!!

[Zen888]

I would be direct and straight forward with your friend in a neutral environment and address your concerns with her.

[miray]

The thing is I have tried small amounts of that before and it doesn't seem to work for long. At this point, what do I really have to lose though. I will think about that. Thanks for the advise Zen

[VickiesPath]

She is the type who doesn't mind stepping on other people to get to the top and she also is a vengeful type of person. She doesn't seem to be that way with me usually, but can see some of that changing.

Hi Miray,

She has made friends with you because now she has an emotional involvement with someone who she thinks she can manipulate with less resistance. I know this sounds cruel but you said it yourself, she will step on other people and be vengeful. Look out for yourself. I would do exactly what Zen888 said and pull no punches.