Why is it so hard to leave someone?

We've been together for 14 years now...

I finally admitted that I really don't love my husband....

we are so different and I can't take it any longer...

he has changed too... He used to be a lot nicer... but becoming really selfish and cold...

It's clear that I don't love him and it's the best we we go separate ways...

but It's so hard... to say, OK, let's get divorced...

we have a kid... he is young, I am sure he'll adapt to new situations well...

I feel like, it's his turn to really take care of me and support me so I can reach my dreams and goals... is that too much asking???

All these years...I've been very supported for him.

He finished his education ( I had my chances but gave up)
as soon as he graduated from university, I got $30,000 from my parents so we started up the business together. it wasn't anything that I liked...
every time we got into financial difficulties, I asked my parents for more money...

I wish I have all those money just for myself and go back to school and live where I want to be...

I know exactly what I want, I know exactly what I need to do
I don't know what's stopping me...

[billieJ]

An unequal marriage can be like slogging through mud, when you could be soaring. I don't advocate divorce, but I am experienced at it, and that was typically the reason why. I thought I could soar. As it turned out, I soared a short flight, and am now grounded with disability, wishing for a husband who could make home repairs and do the yard. It's a hard question. But I sense how you are feeling. You will have to grapple with it, and if you decide to leave, you will have pain for a time. Time will eventually lessen this. Perhaps a separation to see how things work would be one way to go. Wishing you All Luck!