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Nov 07, 2009, 06:11 PM
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So last week, my boyfriend broke up with me cause I wouldn't have sex with him. I'm 16 and he's 17. We went out for exactly a month. So I just need some love or something. This kid was such a pig to me, and I need some reassurement
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Nov 07, 2009, 10:51 PM
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 You have realized you will NOT lower your standards. Just remember that you can always find someone like that. There is nothing wrong with you wanting more out of a relationship. You will find someone who will love you for who you are.
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Nov 07, 2009, 11:23 PM
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omg what an a ss hole! Good on ya 4 knowing what you do and don't want. A month is a bit soon to know if you want to have sex with someone. I hope you find someone who repeats you for your choices. Only have sex when you are ready too so you have no regrets about it.
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Nov 07, 2009, 11:59 PM
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well, it's good to know he didn't lower his standards either. and that he also knew exactly
what he wanted. it's most likely for the best. for both of you. |
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#5
Nov 08, 2009, 02:11 AM
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please remember
your body is under your power. you choose whom you give your body to. that also goes for your heart, your soul, and your spirit. you did the right thing. for whatever reason you wanted to keep your self from 'him'. it's your choice dear one. it needs to be someone very special who would never leave you for the reason that he did not get 'it' . . . . . rather, someone that sees your wonderful self and knows he must treat you like a treasure, rare and unique . . . . . hold out for that someone . . . . xx
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Nov 08, 2009, 02:19 AM
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i so agree u did the right thing saying no. I respect you
be good to u angel
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Nov 08, 2009, 04:19 AM
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GOOD JOB!!!!
 Anyone who tries to pressure you into something you don't want or aren't ready for is not worthy of you. You'll find someone who loves you for YOU, not for what you can give them. I'm glad you didn't lower your standards. That's such an incredible show of strength!!!
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Nov 08, 2009, 07:28 AM
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I agree with all the above. If you BF could not value you as a whole person, and want you for all that you are, not because of sex, then you are better off without him in your life. It hurts now, but you will be glad one day you did not give into that nonsense.
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Nov 08, 2009, 10:26 AM
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thanks everyone ... he was just such a pig to me. i cannot even begin to tell you the things he said to me. so thanks for saying that i did the right thing.
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Nov 08, 2009, 05:13 PM
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"Asta La Vista Baby" and good riddens and Bravo to you for saying NO!! You should be the one to decide when you want to have sex - period!! If he wants to break up for that reason, he's not worth it. It's best to stay away from serious relationships at your age because I find, they break up too easily. You don't want to give yourself to one guy, then a few months down the road you break up and then you're on to the next one and so on - you end up feeling used and abused. Consider yourself lucky he's gone and don't fret one more second.
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#11
Nov 08, 2009, 09:09 PM
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ha, i'm in college and i'm fairly certain my bf just did that to me.
Twas a good thing you broke up with him. Trust me. He wasnt worth your time.
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Nov 08, 2009, 09:14 PM
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Good riddance to bad rubbish!!
Trust me there are better guys out there who aren't looking to get in your pants, just give it some time to find them |
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Nov 11, 2009, 09:21 PM
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I am really proud of you for sticking to your guns. So many girls just give in so that they can keep the guy and regret it immediately after. I know it sucks that you lost someone that you cared about over this. However, if he is immature enough to break up with you for not having sex with him, then he is probably too immature to even be having sex.
When you find the right guy, you be the one to decide if you want to have sex. Boys are always dtf but the boy that is willing to wait for you and let you decide when the time is right might actually be the one you want to have sex with. My mom has a saying that she has told me and my friends for as long as I can remember. "The guy must always love the girl a little bit more." I have found this to be true in so many examples. A little extra love from the boy balances out the girl's emotions. Good luck with finding someone that actually deserves you! |
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Nov 23, 2009, 09:02 AM
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Nov 23, 2009, 10:21 AM
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You go, Girl. You did exactly the right thing in following your own standards rather than yielding to those of someone who would likely have left much sooner if sex had happened. You would probably be feeling much worse had you allowed yourself to be used/abused in this manner and then been abandoned for your trouble. Kudos to You!! billieJ
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Nov 23, 2009, 09:21 PM
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You did the right thing. If he was that hung up on sex that he would use it as an ultimatum proves that he have very little respect.
I really hope you don't let this experience mar your perspective on future relationships. Not all guys are like him, there are a lot of really "good" guys who will respect you and respect waiting until YOU are ready. There is no rush. |
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Nov 26, 2009, 12:37 PM
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good for you
for not giving in to him if he can dump you because you wouldn't give him sex then he was the the right person for you. You will how ever find that person one day & you will know who it is when you do I met my husband when I was only 17 years old & I am 32 years old now & were still together & still very happy with each other just remember hun that no one in like should make you do something you want to if they do they are not worth it xxxx
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