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Nov 28, 2009, 03:40 AM
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I hate that I'm so sensitive about my ex boyfriend....It's been done while ago...and he picked another girl very quickly....
Today when I was driving to GYM, I saw him at his gf's car....I got so sad....unbelievable....can't really believe myself....he's completely out of my life, but why I'm still thinking about him.... I think I'm more pissed that he moved on so quickly and I'm still not moved on....I wish I never dated him....it's getting so hard for me to move on....I'm so scared to get into another relationship and get hurt again.... It's like a close cycle, I find a guy that I like, but it doesn't take more than couple of weeks to split up and then get together and then split up forever! I cried after seeing him with her....then I went to gym and I did rock climbing....it was my second time, but this time i made it to the top....I got so happy.... Then I thought, life is like a rock climbing....you got to try so many times to get to the top....just not to lose hope.... I'm just not sure why I'm still single and can't find even any guy that I'm getting attracted too.... Not sure what to do? thanks for listening to me Marjan |
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Nov 28, 2009, 01:59 PM
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I personally can't blame you for being sad about it. Even the thought of my ex with someone brings me down, seeing it in person would hurt a lot. It's nice to hear that even after seeing that, you made it to the top on your second attempt. You were able to put your feelings aside and focus on what you were doing, which shows strength.
About him finding someone else quickly, it could be that he only feels whole when he's with someone else. A lot of people, male and female, have those types of codependency issues. You not finding someone you're attracted to right away isn't something to be ashamed of or feel sad about. Would you rather rush into something and probably get hurt, or take your time and find the right person? Take your time, the person you're after is out there 
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Nov 28, 2009, 05:04 PM
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(((((((((((((marjan)))))))))))))))))))
   
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Nov 28, 2009, 05:49 PM
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well....I think he moved to my neighborhood
 I see him more often here and there and I hate it... In term of being with somebody to feel good....I'm the same....I do like to have somebody to have all those pasion and connection and going out together....it's better than being alone....but then being with a guy who is not cooperative then life is a hell! so, I think I got to wait and see.... I'm planning to move from this city and get a place closer to my work....hope it happens earlier then I won't see him at all.... Thanks for the input Marjan |
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Nov 28, 2009, 09:19 PM
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If you had a new boyfriend, would that truly heal the hurt? Are you just having feelings of loneliness (quite normal) or jealousy? No need to feel jealous as you will undoubtedly meet a special someone when the timing is right. Good Luck to You!
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Nov 29, 2009, 01:53 PM
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well...I think it's mixed up of Jealousy and loneliness....  but....big step....last night I went to salsa club with one of his friends....she texted me that she's going to the club on Friday night....well...I didn't...then last night, I changed my mind and I went to the club with her....oh...actually she texted me Thursday night too....oh...gosh...these people go dancing every night...I can't do that...it's too much for me....that was one of the reason I didn't want to be with him.... Anyway, I was so hesitated to go....but I made sure that he's not there....I asked her if she's alone...and she was.... I had such a good time....I stayed couple of hours then out! slept like a baby....that was one of the thing I missed since I'm not going out with him....I abandoned myself from dancing and that's my passion.... thanks again Marjan between....I called the counselor hot line from my work last night and she told me I can see a counselor for three free session....I'm going for that....got to clear my issues really |
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