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Dec 06, 2009, 11:13 AM
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hi and i dont even know why im writing im just so down at the moment... ive recently discovered the name for the problem that has plagued me all of my life.. its called misophonia, it mean dislike of sound...
i decided to tell my partner this, he knew i was a bit of a pain where noise was concerned but i did used to play it down a lot as i felt like i was being weird and thought it was all in my head so kept a lot to myself... anyway, it started to get to me loads, everything that my partner did that involved making a noise really enraged me inside so i did a bit of research, and thats when i discovered the name.... i confided all of what i discovered with my partner.... and showed him the post i written on a board especially for people with the same disorder he absolutely flipped... in my post i explained how very much in love i am with him, and how i worship the ground he walks on etc but all he seen was the parts where i was saying how much rage i felt inside when he made these noises... he has literally mentally destroyed me this morning with what he saw... he wanted to see it, he said he wanted to help me get through this as im going to be seeking medical advice, but seeing it has made him flip and now he has gone.... after smashing holes in my walls .... i am so hurt that i trusted him and now he has done this... it felt like he enjoyed seeing me so weak when i was crying and apologising to him and telling him i didnt want him to leave me... normally i am so strong you see, and so in control of my emotions, until this morning... and he seemed to be enjoying seeing me so out of control and begging him not to leave me and help me through this... he was saying he doesnt know if he can or if he even wants to now... asking me questions that he knows i have no answers to until i seek professional help.... anyway just thought id share that with you...  thanks for reading
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Dec 06, 2009, 11:28 AM
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Thank you for posting, molly. May today be the start of a better life for you. Good luck.
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Dec 06, 2009, 11:45 AM
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 thanks for your comment..... and i hope too that today is the start of a better life for me... i am going to the docs tomorrow to explain my problem and hopefully a solution will be found... thanks once again
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DONT DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WOULD NOT WANT DOING TO YOURSELF
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Dec 06, 2009, 05:42 PM
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What a mess , Im sorry this happened. you are not responsible for him punching holes in your wall . He has his own rage problems and you did not cause them. You might try this. Go back to your thread and see what the other posters posted about thier SO's regarding how an SO should handel recieving the diagnosis of the sufferer. If that was even what the post was about. some may say some negative things about their SO or yours or how they should respond and that could have triggered his response. Just a straw grasper. Im guessing something he read made him feel like he was responsible for your diagnosis. or contributing to it. There is a poll above your post . I do not know who put it there . I'm finding it very hard to answer. I don't agree with any answer. I was brought to begging . I guess maybe I should not let anyone I beg near or get to me . . and they did not cause my begging. I have to take responsibility for what causes that in myself. My mother begged when she was beaten. That must be it. what are your thoughts. Take care, of your self . I know this hurts REAL REAL BAD. Patricia |
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Dec 06, 2009, 06:50 PM
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Dont know much about the condition you described but I know this much: if you have a problem, even just a concern, and your man is not willing to go through it he is not worth you being with him. I understand the anger and sadness but I think you need to focus on yourself right now. If he is back willing to support you - all well and good and if he isnt - you are better off without him. Take care of yourself and I hope you feel better soon xxxx
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Dec 27, 2009, 07:27 PM
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I know how badly that hurts. When you put yourself out there and risk being vunerable to him, he took your vunerability and stepped on you with tree spikes. Either he is so incredibly self involved that he wasn't even thinking of you. He is very insensitive to anyone but himself. That knowlege floored him (upset him) and he honestly didn't know how to respondl. You know alot of times when people don't know how to react..... they react badly. Good Luck Sweetie
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I am a female, age 41 and mother of three. I was involved in a domestic conflict and broke my cervical spine in the places C1(1x) &C2(2x). I was very blessed that my spinal cord was not severed. I suffer with Occipital Neuralgia and some damage to my pre-frontal cortex. I take medication for severe ADD and meds for pain and SSRI's to help with NMS (nasty mood swings). I am here to listen to others and ask some questions as well. Feel free to write to me, I would like to meet new friends and associates. |
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