13yrs now shes in a rebound i think???

well,i think it's time you remove yourself from all the madness.She is playing serious games with your heart.But that game requires 2 players and at any point in time you can choose to get off this crazy making merry go round.If she truly loved you she'd be moving heaven and earth to do whatever it takes to make you two's relationship work.Even if it meant taking a break from you and getting counseling for herself.but the fact that she continues to be involved with this man,shows no regard for your feelings whatsoever.You cannot fix her,nor can you change her.This has got to be tearing you up emotionally and the best thing i feel you can do for yourself is to love and respect yourself to walk away once and for all and don't look back.No need to be nasty.Just very firmly and politely tell her enough is enough.you love yourself too much to continue on this way.Then ignore her completely.no matter how lonely she says she is,nor how many texts,emails or whatever else she sends you.I know it seems far easier said than done but just ask yourself,which pain will be harder,dealing with this constant yo-yoing of your emotions or choosing to deal with the necessary pain that healing requires but then being free,healed and whole.I sincerely wish you the best.

thanks for that.im expecting a text from her soon maybe this week.its hard to consetrate on anything.i think if i get over this i will go abroad.just to get away from it all.

hi all i was doing so well 4 .,3weeks with no contact.i got talking to a girl lst wend and we went home together house party in mine.we kissed that was all ya see she was married and has 2 kids but ther separated 7 months cause she had an affaif.then my ex txt me today n we spoke 4 hours.ya see im going to ask new girl out 4 a drink 2nite and my ex seems not happy about it.i know its far from perfect but i think i like new girl.but stil cant explain my feelings for my ex.i think but my head tells me somthing and my heart another.i need ur advise.

After all you have been through, you are going to go out with a women getting a divorce because she cheated on her husband? Ding Ding Ding Ding Red Flag Reg Flag.

well i dint ask her out but im kinda regreting it .i know id only get hurt again.and if i hadent being talking to my exi would of.i know i need 2 move on but its hard when i talk 2 my ex.

hi all well i was talking to my councilor and he thinks i should give it a go.not to expect anything.so i,ll ask her out.i think my ex dosent want to see me dateing.im trying my best to get her help.even she with new guy shes very emotionaly unstable.and confides in me.do,s or donts 4 new date.???

WHAT IS SHE TRYING TO DO 2 ME.my ex that is spoke with her the other day and she wanted to tell me she lyed to me that she was with new guy 4 and left me next day.as if i care.she cheated.we are get on good on the phone her telling me they going on holiday and how he told her that the hotel was lovely.my anger seems to have gone n im glad.i think im as good as over her.they will b home nxt week,and she will b txt n ringin me.how should i be with her cause i know she will be felling so bad in a week.i think she thinks that if she ended with new guy that she could have me back at the drop of a hat.any advice very wellcome.?

Hey Millhouse,

It's really great that your feelings are bottoming out and allowing you the strength to begin making decisions and assessments about the situation; you deserve a pat on the back for that right now.

I do think you are correct in the assumption that she thinks she can have you back at any time she chooses; in my opinion only I would be telling her that she knows where the door is and not to let it hit her on the butt as she leaves.

Block her number on your phone and start living. Let her deal with her guilt her way and not use you to cleanse her of it so that she can nick off again and enjoy the next week until she feels the need for forgiving angain when she runs back to you to give you the next installment of her wonderfull new life. She is torturing you and enjoying it, it seems.

Good luck with this Millhouse...

Rhian

yeah your right she wants to off load guilt to me.she would not talk to me for months when i thought i was losing my mind and really needed her even her voice.i think i am her councilor.do u think i should not talk about this whole situation with her,n just tell her get sum pro help.she has told me that i am her safespot.what am i geting out of this nothing only to b there 4 her when shes felling lonley.and i think she thought that i would be really mad when she told me about ther holiday.like she didnt have to tell me.i wished her well n to take care.if i got mad with her over it i think shed feel more justified in going.dos that make any sence.

Millhouse, your her back-up plan brother. If the bottom falls out with this other dude, she has you to run back to. Move on my man and find a woman who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Jenkins is right... You deserve better than she can offer.

Glad that your feelings are leveling out.. just be prepared for swings every now and then... it's not a step backwards, just bumps in the road. Good Luck!