[coolbrock2]

to add to what i wrote earlier.my husband is also so controlling everything has to be his way or no way.he also tells me i'm wrong all the time.that i'm just mental most of the time and mkaes me feel worthless and unwanted. i think i should just leave him.i don't know what to do.he won't see a councelor.he says its just me if i was diff things would be diff.we have alot of stress but i think if we could treat each other better the stress would be easier.what do you guys think i should do?

Are you seeing a therapist? Therapy likely will benefit you even if your husband will not go.

[garden]

I am lonely at times too. Are you lonely for someone to chat with? Or, do you want more from your husband? Therapy may be a good place to start to help you sort this out.

Try, try again!

[Lady_Chaos]

Originally Posted by coolbrock2

he won't see a councelor.he says its just me if i was diff things would be diff

I had a boyfriend who said almost exactly this to me... He thought that our relationship problems lay solely with me and he wouldn't accept any responsibility for his part in our problems.

I went on anti-depressants
I started having therapy.
I started to get happier....
He stayed miserable.
Then we split.

So i know first-hand how horrible it is when things are like that in a relationship. It's not just you, he has his part to play, and by the sounds of it he's not doing a very good job at it by putting you down and making you feel worse about yourself..

Like the others said, therapy could help you. But if you start to get better and the relationship doesn't....then i don't know what else to suggest.

I hope things work out for you Coolbrock2

[Insignificant other]

Originally Posted by coolbrock2

to add to what i wrote earlier.my husband is also so controlling everything has to be his way or no way.he also tells me i'm wrong all the time.that i'm just mental most of the time and mkaes me feel worthless and unwanted. i think i should just leave him.i don't know what to do.he won't see a councelor.he says its just me if i was diff things would be diff.we have alot of stress but i think if we could treat each other better the stress would be easier.what do you guys think i should do?

Hang in there coolbrock2 ! I'm dealing with the same thing. My H has hissy fits ... literally! I'm dealing with a child here and me thinks you are too. For me, I feel that my soul has been murdered by his attitude towards me. That 's not a good feeling ... and I thought for sure I would die from it ... but I did not ! This sort of man is selfish, self centered and will not change. The way I delt with it ... I moved to another room in the house ... I'm ignoring him as he ignores me...I don't pay him any attention at all anymore ... and I no longer give him any respect. I dish out exactly what he's serving ... in my eyes, he can't do anything right now ...he's an ***.
My advice to you .... put yourself first ! You are worth a million ... you are important ( no matter what he says)! ... and you are stronger than you think ....hang in there ! This too shall pass ... and you will be much wiser for it.