[marjan]

I met him between friends and I believed that he's the guy who would never ever hurt me.....he asked me out couple of times and we had a great time together......he's emailing or texting me but not calling.... .then I left for the Christmas.....he texted me saying happy holidays before Christmas....then I called him and we went out with my sister and my brother in law and couple of other friends out for new year.....it was okay till 12am....all of a sudden he said "now time to kiss"....and he grabbed my face and kissed me from lips....but very cold quick kiss....and it was our first kiss....I was shocked and disgusted.....then when he was dropping me off....he hugged me in the car....that's it....then my mistake....I turned back and I kissed him from lips then chick....and he didn't move....he didn't return my kiss back.....I was so humiliated....so rejected....kinda angry....I just got out from the car....I think he was still talking....sor whatever....I couldn't hear it anymore.....
then I didn't get in touch with him till he emailed me couple of times, but short emails ignoring about whatever has happened....I didn't answer the first email....then I saw him....he seems so eager when he sees me....and he hugged me....but that's it again....what's wrong?
I said, I will give him another chance and I texted him on Saturday telling him that we are going hiking on Sunday.....and he said what time? then next day, he said he can't make it......
He told all the other friends that he spent the new year's eve with me and my sister.....and he told them that he had a good time.....
I do like him....and I know we will be good together.....but I'm not sure why it's getting this much hard?
I feel so lonely most of the time.....and now being rejected again!
sorry for being so nagy....thanks for listening.....

[Pomegranate]

Marjan, there are several things that could be causing this behavior. The best thing you can do is let him go at his own pace. Take special care to notice any cues he may give about his sexuality or his nervousness about getting into a sexual relationship.

If it were me, the very next time we were alone together I would try to bring up what happened and just ask him to be honest with me: Am I going too fast? Is he not interested in a sexual relationship? Is he gay? He may simply be very much wanting a good friend to enjoy himself with, but NOT a sexual relationship. You need to clear that up between the two of you. Then you can decide if you want to continue the friendship or not.

There are many women and men that want to get to know a person pretty well, to become friends and see if they truly LIKE each other and have similiar interests, before bringing sex into the mix of a relationship. It's not a bad idea.

[marjan]

Thanks Pomegranate.....well....I've never seen a guy to say no to a kiss!!!!
but the interesting part was him kissing me first....
I don't think I can bring up such a matter to his attention....I prefer to be quiet and not talk about it at all....I feel uncomfortable now seeing him even....I don't think he's gay....he's been married and it shows that he likes girls....probably, just simple, he's looking for just a friendship at this time...I think he's still looking for a job which is understandable.....
I don't think I will make any move at all.....as I don't like anybody to put me on spot, I don't like to do that to anybody....
This is my luck....after breaking up with Aaron, I just found Kevin interesting and now it's like this.....it's been a while that I broke up with Aaron and I'm getting even okay not thinking about him and not caring about his girlfriend and even wishing them happiness....and I forgave him for all the short temper he had towards me!
Time will show....
thanks again...
Marjan