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Old Jan 16, 2010, 12:11 PM
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my husband and seem to have nothing in common.he likes diff music than i.diff tv shows just everything.when it comes to sex there is none hasn't been for a couple years.he sleeps on the couch and i sleep in bed.i try to tell him how lonely i am and he blames me for it.he doesn't hold me even when i need comfort and he doesn't kiss.i think he doesn't love me yet he doesn't want me to leave him.but i think i need to leave for my own santitity.but i have no place to go.what do i do?

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Old Jan 16, 2010, 01:14 PM
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my husband and seem to have nothing in common.he likes diff music than i.diff tv shows just everything.when it comes to sex there is none hasn't been for a couple years.he sleeps on the couch and i sleep in bed.i try to tell him how lonely i am and he blames me for it.he doesn't hold me even when i need comfort and he doesn't kiss.i think he doesn't love me yet he doesn't want me to leave him.but i think i need to leave for my own santitity.but i have no place to go.what do i do?
He doesn't have a marriage. He has a housekeeper. Tell him either he goes to marriage counseling with you or you are out of there.
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Old Jan 16, 2010, 04:49 PM
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coolbrock2,

Sounds very sad to me You're both already gone emotionally.

I agree with Vickie ~ you seriously need marriage counseling. If he refuses, it's time to move out.

There are lots of resources available to those who need assistance. Contact the county that you live in, social services department, if you do require further assistance. Depending upon what areas you branch into, the county for be a great help. It can be incredibly stressful, and I'd highly recommend counseling to help you work through the emotional seesaw.

I hope that you & your husband are able to reconnect and work upon developing a healthy, happy marriage. Best wishes to you!
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Old Jan 16, 2010, 05:05 PM
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Coolbrock2, I'm in agreement with the other responses. But have you tried reversing the treatment without the meanness? Men usually wake up when they realize you're happy and that they can't make you take the blame anymore.
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