[marjan]

I dated a friend....he asked me out couple of times....and we had a great time....but just two dinner together and a hike alone.....then I took him to my sister's place for new year and we went out after there.....at 12am, all of a sudden he said....time for kiss....and he kissed me so cold from my lips....I was shocked and disgusted.....I do like him and have lots of chemistry!!!!
Then when he was dropping me off at home....he hugged me in his car....but like a friendship hug....then my mistake, I turned back my face and kissed him from lips....but then no kiss back.....I left feeling rejected and humiliated and angry.....
I didn't get in touch with him....he emailed me couple of days later saying how I am.....I didn't reply back....then he emailed me again saying if I go to hike next day....I emailed him back....but I saw him on way up while he was hiking down with group of friends....then he texted me telling me to join them in the bar....I didn't....it was late....next day he emailed me saying that I was missed.....but why doesn't he call me? what's wrong?
I texted him on Sunday telling him to join us for hike and he said what time? but then he said he can't make it!!!!
I'm tired....tired....tired.....why should be this much hard?
we are in our 30s for god sake!
I wish one day, I could find that person and end up to all these games.....I'm tired of games....very tired!
thanks for reading my post
Marjan

[perpetuallysad]

Aw, I feel for you. Let's look at it positively and say he does feel the chemistry but he feels awkward as well. Even if you are in your thirties, each of you certainly has some fear of rejection. Maybe he didn't think you kissed him back during the new year's kiss and was just surprised when you kissed him when getting out of the car?
For him to continuously contact you, it seems he must think something of you. As far as not calling, emailing may feel "safer" for him, maybe this way he won't feel rejection as easily as if you wouldn't answer the phone when he called. I wouldn't give up and would certainly try to give him a chance. Good luck!

[marjan]

Originally Posted by perpetuallysad

Aw, I feel for you. Let's look at it positively and say he does feel the chemistry but he feels awkward as well. Even if you are in your thirties, each of you certainly has some fear of rejection. Maybe he didn't think you kissed him back during the new year's kiss and was just surprised when you kissed him when getting out of the car?
For him to continuously contact you, it seems he must think something of you. As far as not calling, emailing may feel "safer" for him, maybe this way he won't feel rejection as easily as if you wouldn't answer the phone when he called. I wouldn't give up and would certainly try to give him a chance. Good luck!

Thanks "Perpetuallysad" for your kind words.....Nice to think this way.....I wasn't ready for the first kiss at all....and my sister just turned back to hug me....and she was waiting looking at us to hug me....so, I was so uncomfortable....you are right probably, he felt the same....but then in the car, I showed him that I'm interested and he had enough time to do something.....
Unfortunately, I can't justify the whole story except being rejected.....and well....there is nothing to do with it....just time will show.....
thanks again....I hope what you said is the reality

[jerrymichele]

If he keeps sending you messages I would say that he still feels something for you. It was probably just an awkard moment.

[marjan]

Just a quick update.....I went out with him last night and it was great....he kissed me and cuddled with me and told me how much he likes me and he told me that he liked me from the first time he met me.....He said he just likes to take it slow!!!!
I feel so relax and comfortable with him and I'm happy that I went out....because I didn't want to....
He kept emailing me and I was refusing to answer him, but then I said I will give him another chance.....wish good things come out of this relationship....
And by the way, for those who know me.....I met Aaron last Saturday after four month.....(I'm starting my dance class again).....he looked so sad and thin....I hugged him and say hi to him.....I forgave him and I'm sure I don't want him at all....so, I was relaxed even to see him with the other girl....but guess what???? He turned back to me all of a sudden and told me...."Marjan, the girl that you saw me with, has dumped me!!!".....I was so surprised and speechless.....I felt bad for him and I told him, I'm so sorry....He said he's doing okay now and he's getting over her!!!! at the end, I said...."Aaron, what did you do? what did you say?" he said nothing....
We danced together and we were just like two old friends.....I do have that Chemistry for him.....but I don't want him back in my life....specially now that I can think about Kevin
how life is playing game with us? that's interesting.....
Marjan