[Amanda_1981]

I know it's just a regular day to some, but I always feel like a big loser on Valentine's Day because I'm still single and have no one to share it with. It's the one day of the year that feels like it's rubbing it in my face that I have no one that loves me and I get really depressed around this time. I feel like I'll never find anyone and never get to have a wonderful fun Valentine's Day to celebrate with someone. I know some may think that Valentine's Day has become over rated as portrayed in the media but I just wish that I didn't have to be spending it alone year after year. Anyone else who is single feels like this day can be depressing when you see all your friends and family who are in love and spending their day together and you're all alone? How do you get through the day and not let it completely bum you out?

[Rhapsody]

Dont worry about the world its only out for the money this day brings.

[NuckingFutz]

I have had much better days than Valentines Day. I have my own special days that I cherrish.

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by Amanda_1981

How do you get through the day and not let it completely bum you out?

By sending you lots of valentines!

Valentine's day has become very overrated, but I know what you mean. It's a cheesy day, but sometimes I feel like it'd be nice to be a part of that cheesiness. :P What I try to do is treat it like any normal day (and eat lots of chocolate!). Spending the day with family and friends is also a nice way to spend Valentine's day.

Also, I just realized that we're from the same province. xD

[DiNozzo]

i know how it feels, just been made romantically redundant, gonna treat myself to nice dinner

[A_Long_ways]

Trying not to get too bummed out, just another day on the calendar after all. Unfortunately my mind had other plans, and basically started thinking about my ex the second I woke up. Today is gonna be a long day.

I refuse to allow the Madison Avenue types to get me thinking I am inadequate. If this site has any credence there are about as many wanting out of a marriage as those who are depressed about being single. The grass is always greener some other place -- or is it?

[brookew09]

i know exactly what you mean. i just try to spend as much time with family and friends as much as you can.

[lynn P.]

I have experienced nice Valentines Days in the past, but now I kind of wish it would just disappear because I don't feel connected to this person the same way anymore. I also hate the commercialism of this holiday and others. Sorry you're sad ((Amanda))

[RedCylon]

I was looking for a thread like this. I knew I would find one, and I agree completely. I have come to really despise Valentine's Day. All that lovey-dovey crap they rub in our faces. All the romantic moves, the commercials, the stupid decorations of hearts.

And you know the really sad thing? I WANT to be part of it. I WANT to celebrates this stupid, meaningless Hallmark Holiday. Why do I hate Valentine's Day? Because year after year I am alone. I would love this stupid holiday otherwise. I'm the type of sap who would look forward to it. But when was the last time I had a Valentine? Elementary school, maybe?

Every year I think to myself, "well, there is always next year." Then next year comes...and nothing.

Well, other things in life have been slowly improving. Maybe this will be the last year I hate Valentine's Day. As a matter of fact, that is my new mission. I won't be alone next year. I'll always fully understand the outright hatred people have for this holiday though. It's basically a day to brag and mock the less fortunate. Oh well. Next year...

[Amanda_1981]

thanks ((((((((((everyone)))))))))))) for all your replies. I managed to get through today.. one of my friends came over and we watched some comedy movies but I started getting really emotional during the last movie because even though it was a comedy, there was a love story part to it and it kept making me feel depressed and lonely and sad that I don't have anyone who loves me like that. I mean I know my family and friends love me but it's not the same kind of love that you get from a boyfriend or husband.. I want to experience being in love.. I want a family, I want someone who will leave me a sweet note in my jacket pocket when I go to work, someone who will every now and then bring me home flowers.. and it's not like I want a dozen red roses. Hell, I'd be happy with just one small little flower that he picked up from the ground. And It's not even the material things that I want, it's the small little things.. the saying "I love you" right before you go to bed or leave for work. Something to show me that he loves me. I just want to feel important and loved and maybe I'm a hopeless romantic but I guess I just don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and right now it really feels like I will be. I know my seasonal depression and current stressful situations are probably making me more emotional about this, as I've been really emotional lately. I just don't know how everyone I know seems to find love and I can't. I know I'm not huge on the whole bar/club scene, and it seems like that is where the majority of my friends and family have met their significant other. I'm also self conscious about the way I look, as I've gained a bit of weight from my anxiety meds, but I know not all guys are into looks.. maybe I just haven't met the right one yet or maybe I'm not looking hard enough. I do want to sign up for e-harmony because I've heard more success stories of there than from the online sites where you don't have to pay (the free one I've been using, it seems that the guys only want one thing..). I just hope I get to fall in love one day and not have to spend the rest of my nights sleeping with my dog (although he does keep my feet warm )

Sorry I guess I just needed to vent... but at the same time I do want to be positive and hope that maybe next year on Valentine's day I *won't* be alone..

Originally Posted by Amanda_1981

I know it's just a regular day to some, but I always feel like a big loser on Valentine's Day because I'm still single and have no one to share it with. It's the one day of the year that feels like it's rubbing it in my face that I have no one that loves me and I get really depressed around this time. I feel like I'll never find anyone and never get to have a wonderful fun Valentine's Day to celebrate with someone. I know some may think that Valentine's Day has become over rated as portrayed in the media but I just wish that I didn't have to be spending it alone year after year. Anyone else who is single feels like this day can be depressing when you see all your friends and family who are in love and spending their day together and you're all alone? How do you get through the day and not let it completely bum you out?

Amanda, I don't know you. But, by sharing your humble words of woe, I consider you a deep caring person. It does not matter that there is a mate. Some, A lot of time it is best to NOT have a mate.
But on days like to day - named Valentines... any day - I would ask that
you treat yourself with the love you think you should get from others.
No one will ever love you nor give to you what you need or want.... It is only in YOUR heart and soul is where the love counts.

[Amanda_1981]

you took the words right out of my mouth!

Originally Posted by RedCylon

I was looking for a thread like this. I knew I would find one, and I agree completely. I have come to really despise Valentine's Day. All that lovey-dovey crap they rub in our faces. All the romantic moves, the commercials, the stupid decorations of hearts.

And you know the really sad thing? I WANT to be part of it. I WANT to celebrates this stupid, meaningless Hallmark Holiday. Why do I hate Valentine's Day? Because year after year I am alone. I would love this stupid holiday otherwise. I'm the type of sap who would look forward to it. But when was the last time I had a Valentine? Elementary school, maybe?

Every year I think to myself, "well, there is always next year." Then next year comes...and nothing.

Well, other things in life have been slowly improving. Maybe this will be the last year I hate Valentine's Day. As a matter of fact, that is my new mission. I won't be alone next year. I'll always fully understand the outright hatred people have for this holiday though. It's basically a day to brag and mock the less fortunate. Oh well. Next year...

Valentines is just a word -
A Hallmark Holiday if you really heard.

Love doesn't come on only one day.
Also Love comes in so many ways.

The truest Love we'll ever known,
The truest Love that will never go

Is the TRUEST LOVE To ourselves we show.

__________________

[FeelingHopeful]

Glad this day is over!