Emotional Trust Issues...

Okay, while the title kind of says a lot of it, I'm going to explain it a bit more. My problem is that I have issues trusting people with my thoughts and emotions...however, I trust people much more easily when it comes to my body, though if it's anything more than a hug they're usually the ones to initiate...

so, I guess what I'm saying is: is anyone else in a similar situation or feels the same? does anyone have any tips on trusting others better and respecting myself more?

thanks,
<3invisiblegirl

Hello, Invisiblegirl. How long has this been going on? Were you betrayed by someone you thought trustworthy in the past? Are you talking about intimacy when talking about those who initiate more than a hug?

Trusting is an issue a therapist could help you with.

I have found that trust usually occurs in baby-steps. You can swing for the fence and expect a home run, but more often than not, it ends in disappointment. While its not as exciting trusting little by little, it's longer lasting. Does that make any sense? Your comment about physical vs emotional trust makes perfect sense, the heart takes much longer to heal.

Hellow. Honestly, I'm not sure how long I've been like this, but it's during this past year that I've really noticed it. No one has ever really betrayed my trust deeply (more than the average 'oh so-and-so told so-and-so I like him'). And when it comes to 'intimacy' I've never gone all the way, but I've done some things (like kissing and BJ/HJ).

I'm planning on talking to my therapist at our next appointment (as you suggested in my other thread) and I'll also see what she says.

Hi InvisibleGirl. It sounds as if you are sensing/feeling people out. Though your conscious mind is not aware, your subconscious is very aware -- of things that you don't trust about people. Talk with your therapist and take care.

Hellow =) yeah, that seems to make sense. Thank you, and take care as well.

Please be completely open and forthright with your therapist, Visablegirl. Good luck.

Thank you for the advice darling, I plan to =)

I don't think not trusting others comes down to you respecting yourself. I think it sounds like you just don't know if you can tell people things about yourself. I'm in the same position bc, with the stuff I have been through, I have had people use it against me before. It is always really hard to tell guys about my abusive past bc one time, when I broke up with a guy, he goes "no wonder your ex used to hit you". And I went, okay....guess I can't tell anybody anything anymore.

People need to EARN your trust. Its hard to just give up info about yourself without any kind of 'proof' that they wont throw you under the bus. Here is a really good place to start. You can open up about anything on here, promise

(((((((((((invisible))))))))))

I don't want to add much to this thread other than that the trust issue is a big thing for me. Because there is no-one I trust and everything said must be guarded (or better yet, say nothing at all) stress is a frequent contributor to my mental health condition.

Just wanted you to know that you are not alone.