[angie2716]

Ok here's the thing. I used to keep a journal about my "bad thoughts" and my husband found it and made copies of it so he could use it against me if we get a divorce. Well I started writing down all the stuff that he has done to me for the past couple of months. And he found one of the pages. But he didn't find the main ones that I rote. And the thing is I had my journal hidden. So he snoops through everything all the time. So needless to say I can a butt chewing for it. So now I'm going to have to stop journaling period. I had given the journal to my sis to keep for me but I had to get it back to write some more that happened. So now I'm gonna have to stop writing stufdf down and just bottle everything up again!

[lynn P.]

That's very mean and deceitful of him. Could you instead do all your journaling on the computer and have a password(strong one)? I think the more serious issue is why he did it - to have evidence in case of divorce. I feel bad for you ((angie))

[NuckingFutz]

If he claims he took the info in case you get divorced. Every piece of evidence has to be admitted which will call into question how the journal was obtained. This is more telling on him than on you. Because he did this without your knowledge nor permission. They should throw your journal and it's contents out as inadmissable. I would not stay with someone who violates my privacy. This guy does not play fair. I am sorry you are having to go through this.

[Tatyana2009]

That is awful. Dont bottle up!! Maybe, if you cannot write on a passworded pc, write on a piece of paper and then attach it later to the journal. Its easy to hide a piece of paper.

His behaviour is shameful and abusive. I hope you are keeping safe x

[angie2716]

Yes it is. On my computer I can't lock them for some reason. Thank you!

Originally Posted by lynn P.

That's very mean and deceitful of him. Could you instead do all your journaling on the computer and have a password(strong one)? I think the more serious issue is why he did it - to have evidence in case of divorce. I feel bad for you ((angie))

[Elysium]

I agree with others...

Your husband's behavior is extremely intrusive and completely violates your right to privacy. He is using your own thoughts and feelings and attempting to manipulate you with them by saying he will use them against you if you ever get divorced.

Don't bottle up your emotions/feelings or thoughts. Here's an idea that I have used before. Get a Safe Deposit Box and keep your journal in there. You don't have to tell him that you have one and when you need to journal, you can get your journal, go sit in the park or the library, and journal away. Then when you're done, put it back in the box.

You do not have to tolerate this behavior from him.

[angie2716]

Thank you. I will have to get one cause I have so many thoughts that I need to get out. And I don't know how many posts I'm allowed on here.

[salukigirl]

If he flat out says he is keeping them IN CASE you ever get divorced I would bring him the papers. But first I would change the locks and put all of his things out in the yard. And put the papers in a "get well" card outside the door. Screw him.

Post any time you feel the urge, angie. Sorry about what your husband did.
(((((( angie ))))))

[angie2716]

Thers an idea lol.

Originally Posted by salukigirl

If he flat out says he is keeping them IN CASE you ever get divorced I would bring him the papers. But first I would change the locks and put all of his things out in the yard. And put the papers in a "get well" card outside the door. Screw him.

[angie2716]

Ok I will. Thank you.

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Post any time you feel the urge, angie. Sorry about what your husband did.
(((((( angie ))))))