[JakeSim]

I'm just curious how you know if a relationship just didnt work? I'm 17 and overly confused with what I want. I broke up with my ex because of all this confusion. I like her a lot, I really do. But I still had a strong curiousity about other relationships because this was my first.

Now I still have that strong curiousity but I also still like my ex and am afraid to move on because if I do there's a really good chance she won't take md back but then again if I go out with her there's that possibility of the relationship not working again then I definitely wouldn't have a chance after that.

Either way I know if it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be but I mean I still like her and I'm confused with what to do. I love my ex's personality and I always just compare it to other girls. I'm just not sure what I want and I'm afraid a relationship with my ex may just not work again because of this but there is also a chance it could.

If it helps to know I have severe anxiety which was bad when I was going out with her but she did help me realize I was driving myself crazy and I couldn't enjoy the relationship because of it. I guess it got so bad I got to the point of confusion. However I'm a little more calm bow that I don't have that pressure but I'm still confused what I want.

[Belle1979]

Hey JakeSim

From what I have read most of your posts are along the same lines...
Personally (from experience) you are young and now is not the time to be worrying too much about relationships... some work and others don't. There is no rule that will tell you what is going to work and what wont - it's the game of life really.

Have you considered getting counselling to help work through your issues?

[psychochicx13x]

Originally Posted by JakeSim

I'm just curious how you know if a relationship just didnt work? I'm 17 and overly confused with what I want. I broke up with my ex because of all this confusion. I like her a lot, I really do. But I still had a strong curiousity about other relationships because this was my first.

Now I still have that strong curiousity but I also still like my ex and am afraid to move on because if I do there's a really good chance she won't take md back but then again if I go out with her there's that possibility of the relationship not working again then I definitely wouldn't have a chance after that.

Either way I know if it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be but I mean I still like her and I'm confused with what to do. I love my ex's personality and I always just compare it to other girls. I'm just not sure what I want and I'm afraid a relationship with my ex may just not work again because of this but there is also a chance it could.

If it helps to know I have severe anxiety which was bad when I was going out with her but she did help me realize I was driving myself crazy and I couldn't enjoy the relationship because of it. I guess it got so bad I got to the point of confusion. However I'm a little more calm bow that I don't have that pressure but I'm still confused what I want.

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Personally I am going through somewhat the same thing with my ex fiance. I tried things out with someone else that I really liked and now I am back with my ex and things feel so weird. They wouldnt of been so weird if I didnt cheat on him. I would say that you and her should spend time apart seeing other people. If your love is truely meant to be it will come back to you with her wanting it to also and then you will know for sure. Its the old saying, let it go and if it was meant to be it will come back.