[myoasis89]

I'm a little concerned about my current relationship...I don't know if its love or what but we've been dating for 1 week and a half...known each other only three days before dating...we work at the same place...that's how we met...I was interested in him and him in I....after he asked me out...i said yes...but i ddin't realise that he wanted to see me everyday. He walks me home from work even when he's not working the same night...he sees me for lunch when his classes are done and so are mine...he plans out waht to do every weekend...although he does ask what I want to do too...he told me he loved me after he asked me out....

I have feelings for him...and to tell the truth though...I'm not sure if they are as strong as his....he wants to go to new york with me at the end of summer

I don't have many friends...i don't have any friends at all actually...I'm an introvert...and I don't like being around people all the time...he keeps me company though...he has tons of friends...

I guess I'm aminly confused about my feelings...he's 25 and I'm 21...I think he's looking for someone to settle down with...for me...I have one more year of university and so does he...I would like to get married and have kids...its my dream...but I want that with the right person...i guess i can see where this relationship goes and whether its right...i think I should make more guy friends and friends in general though...I'm afraid of being forced or pressured into something I don't want

I have sat him down once and told him how I felt...he listened...and he understood...but he cried...and I didn't udnerstand why...I mean he shouldn't take it so seriously...he told me that after his last gf he felt he would never find someone again...this jsut shocked me becauser there is no reason why he couldn't find a good woman...ughhhhhh...he also told me that I have so many great qualities and that he doesn't have many...then i started naming off a few...and I don't know if it made him feel better or not

Hello, myoasis89. He appears to be a very needy person. Despite your personality profile, it is not your job to look after every one in the world. Your instincts are already on alert. My suggestion is for you to suggest some boundaries you are comfortable with. If he cannot abide by them, perhaps you will need to end any involvement with him.

Good luck.

[Rhapsody]

I see a red flashing WARNING sign here... he seems to have moved to fast to soon and he is displaying obsessive control issues - please be careful.

[myoasis89]

thanks for everyone's comments...I am worried that he might be a control freak...but I grew up with a mother who was very controlling....she didn't let me be me...and made it known that I should be exactly like her or I was a failure....

my previous ex was controlling...I think I liked it because I felt like I was being taken care of by someone...I felt like a kid again...although i know its not healthy...I think i am attracted to that...it makes me feel safe...my ex told me what clothes to wear...how to wear my hair...what food to eat...

I think he started realising his behaviour though...because I wanted tog et my belly butoon pierced..and he said is it ebcause of me...don't get it done if I want that...I said no I want it...so I went and got it and he liked it...he also started telling me...I will eat this food and you can eat whatever you want...I won't force you to eat something you don't like

I'm fairly shy and quiet...so I like when someone talks...my present bf likes the same things I like...so a lot of the things we plan...I like too...and he is good that when he says can we hang out...I say...Ican't...he doesn't get upset like my ex did...and he lets me hang out with ym friends...his friend told him to that he should back off and give me space...I think he is jsut enrvous about making me happy...and doesn't want to screw thing up

[myoasis89]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Hello, myoasis89. He appears to be a very needy person. Despite your personality profile, it is not your job to look after every one in the world. Your instincts are already on alert. My suggestion is for you to suggest some boundaries you are comfortable with. If he cannot abide by them, perhaps you will need to end any involvement with him.

Good luck.

thanks for taking interest in getting to know me in my profile in order to give an educated response...