[salukigirl]

Last night on the way home from a trip he was acting like a total wimp. He makes jokes like "oh are you talking about me?" all the time. If I'm texting, emailing, whatever.....he will make that joke. And I just laugh about it and let it go. Well last night he was texting while I was driving so I said "oh are you talking about me?" and he totally flipped! Saying how exhausted he was. So I said, Oh I'm sorry YOU'RE so exhausted because I have driven the whole way there, the whole way back and all around the city (I ended up driving about 24 hours in 3 days). Plus....he took a nap in the car. So I'm sorry you are sooooo exhausted from doing absolutely nothing (not to mention I did all the research and planning prior to the trip) that you have to flip over nothing. Now he refuses to admit that he makes that joke all the time and I never flip out like that. He goes "I haven't made that joke in probably 2 months!" Since when was there a timeframe requirement for making jokes? So now HE has to make a joke within the last week for it to be okay for ME to do it?! I might strangle him. I'm so livid right now but I'm not letting him see that because I know that's what he wants.

And you always seemed to be the perfect couple.

[John25]

but do you love him?

[salukigirl]

Byz - Is there such a thing?

John - Yes I love him. I just kind of want to smack him right now.

Instead of actually talking through it, he just says sorry and then acts like nothing happened later. I know it's because its hard for anyone to flat out say "I was wrong" but still. It'd be nice if the apologies actually sounded sincere. But then I'm the bad guy because I am still upset after he literally just says "sorry". Then I'm the one overreacting because I feel like there is more to an apology than literally just saying sorry.

[NuckingFutz]

How important is this issue in the scheme of things. Feel your feelings and let it go. save your energy for the positive stuff.

[salukigirl]

Thanks NF. That's what I needed

[NuckingFutz]

Oh good. Thought it sounded off when I wrote that...was also thinking agree to disagree makes the world more interesting. Now the driving thing...if he was driving you would be lost somewhere cause you know how men can be about stopping and asking for directions (joke) oh and what an arguement that would be. (wink).

[salukigirl]

He has a GPS......which he bought simply to hear Snoop Dogg give him directions. However, it was wrong the other day. So I just drove with my own sense of direction and ignored him and we got there faster haha

One time we were driving to a Cincinnati Reds game (I'm originally from Dayton, OH) so I knew how to get there but he insisted on using his new GPS. Well his GPS tells us to get on a highway that I know takes you to Indianapolis but he tells me to just trust it, it might be a shortcut that I never found in my 20 years of living there. Well, we ended up getting lost, showing up 45 minutes late and the game was sold out. Needless to say, if I tell him I know where I'm going and to tell his GPS to shut up, he listens now lol

I see your friend is still in the album with your babies. In view of the frequent engagements you speak of, I assume you two like to go tête-à-tête, and/or that his picture in the babies album is more than merely subliminal.

[salukigirl]

That was an accident and I keep forgetting to change it. One time I tried and didn't know how. Tete-a-tete - I had to google that one. I'm not sure what you mean though?

I was wondering if engaging in topics in dispute perhaps added some zest to your relationship and, if not, whether his picture in the babies section accurately reflected how you viewed him.

Importantly, I was speaking somewhat tongue in cheek. I intend no offense.

[Envision]

I would agree with the general concept of what TheByzantine brought up, it appears that if there's not a conflict in the conversation, one will be created just so there's something to talk about.