[weepoofeet]

I'm super sensitive and expect everyone close to me to me mellow so I don't break down. I have strong control over my unhealthy levels of emotion so long as the situation stays mellow. I mean no name calling, back handed statements, ect. Is that unreasonable or a characteristic I need in my close friends?

I mean what I say, unless I am kidding around. I have no idea whether angry men say what they mean more often than angry women do.

I would say gender doesn't matter in the case of expressing anger, it more depends on the individual.

And personally, I don't express anger very often, but I do mean it when I say it.

[englishteacher]

Agree with ohseedee - I've seen some really angry women and some really angry men! Who really knows if they mean all the venamous things they say? Even if they say later that they didn't mean it, that doesn't mean that they really didn't when they said it, or even that they don't still feel or think that way.

[la doctora]

When I am in a rage I say things that I regret terribly. When I look back on it I am ashamed of the things I say. However, I can dig really deeply and tell you that sometimes, just sometimes, I might mean what I say just a little bit. You know? It's almost like I can only sort-of mean it. I mean, I might mean it right then, but I definately don't mean it later. Confusing to say the least.

[perpetuallysad]

I'm incredibly careful about what I say, even when terribly angry. I know that words can hurt more than anything. I find this isn't the most common of characteristics though and a lot of people do say whatever's on their mind when they are angry. I also find that a lot of times the things they say when they are angry are the truth, but they don't let them out until they are pushed.

Also, the poll question is sort of weird and hard to understand.

I think it depends on the person and situation and what was said. For instance, I'm forced to put up with family that I can't stand. I can go day to day, getting along or keeping the peace..but every so often things just build up, come to a head and I let it all out and say what I'm really feeling/thinking on the inside..and it's ugly. I'm not one of those people who walk around angry and miserable but I won't deny that it's hidden inside.

On the other hand there are times I do say jackass things out of anger that I don't mean but it's in a different context. Like when my cat throws a fit and yells at me because the litter box isn't clean enough.. I threaten to dump him on the beach where he can have miles and miles of clean litter. I've said much worse than that and it's more out of anger/annoyance and I don't mean any of it. Like, why can't he wait until I'm done eating before having to crap?

[Perna]

I think anger is a feeling and what is said/done is on the part of the sayer/doer and isn't about the other person at all. We can't know why someone else says/does what they do so it doesn't bother me if they say something "off" when they're angry. Someone calling me names or being ugly doesn't mean that's what I actually am and I know myself well enough to not be bothered by someone saying something negative about me. I try to find out what's actually upsetting them and see if I can help solve the problem. Anger is about a problem situation, not a person.