[lagomorphamaniac]

for the past month, i have been getting closer to a man who is going through a divorce. the paperwork has been filed, it's just going through the details. as many can guess, it's a complicated situation.

we began as friends and he confided in me about the problems he was having with his wife and the marriage. i have always been very supportive, even when he's going off about it using very colorful language. i have never said "i don't want to hear it," because ultimately, i do want him to talk about what he's thinking and feeling.

however, i sent him a text saying that i think i saw my abusive ex near my house. his response...T.M.I. i'm not angry, but i am confused by this answer. is he setting a double standard that he can share all the intimate details of his previous relationships and i can't even bring up an ex?

[jenkins09]

I heard, or read you saying that you are "getting closer to a man going through a divorce." Are your feelings hurt because you are developing romantic feelings for him and felt he should show concern when you sent him the text?

What are your expectations of him? do you want more than a friendship? Why not just approach him and share how you feel?

[Jenn1fer82]

How long have you've been dating him and have you guys been close enough to have a conversation why he's getting a divorce and what does he think about his expectation of relationships in the future? I'm asking this because more than likely he's still carrying emotional baggage from his last relationship. He's already dealing with a lot of his own problems and emotionally he probably doesn't have the mental space to deal with other things. I met my bf when he was legally separated and now the process of getting the divorce is going underway. I need to understand that he's going to be overwhelmed and even though he's not able to be there mentally I know it’s not because he doesn’t care but he has a lot going on at the time. Talk to him and don't allow your assumption ruin something that may be a good thing in your life.

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/r...ndrelation.htm

Originally Posted by lagomorphamaniac

is he setting a double standard that he can share all the intimate details of his previous relationships and i can't even bring up an ex?

sadly, it sure sounds like it. i hope you take this bit of info about him to heart and realize it's all about him. please find someone single or already divorced instead.