[caren1971]

2004 to 2010 my husband was cheating on me with me son tutor that worked with him whom which he referred.this woman smile in my face plus wrote a book which i brought and had given this woman a dozen of rose.in 2009 my husband went to Washington DC and he forgot to log off his computer which he never does at all.i found out that the have had sex made love like two married couples that are truly in love..now that his health is getting poor were as he has kidney disease,he inform me that they don't communicate anymore but they do.he promise. also when they want to dc he slept with another co-worker how i know he stated that a man roded with them.i confronted that man and he stated that i want that's what he was told.my son is 10 yrs old my family say what ever goes on in your house do what ever it takes to keep your family together no matter what.my husband haven't touch me in 6mos.he says that his health has him feeling like this but kidney disease wasn't told to him until march2010.he says that he don't have no desires.but the weekend i am at work he drops my son off at my parents and pick him up before he pick me up at 11pm.please help me i just want to be happy if that's anyway possible.i have no friends because he thinks there are going to introduce me to another man.2009 we start sleeping different beds,I still feel in my heart he has feeling for this woman.i have no friends.i found this site and have read some of this things prople have wrote,I WONDER will i ever be strong again or will i be a proisoner in my on home an stay mad as hell all the time.

[losingmymind82]

sweet heart I know what your going through I went through the same thing for six years and I couldn't take it anymore though my ex did have cancer as soon as I left him I found out he had diabetes and almost died. If you feel you can hang in there but in my opinion you and your son will be much happier in the end away from that. Look at it this way ur not sleeping in the same bed any how. sleep in your own bed in your own home and have your own dignity I wish you so much Lucj your going to need it

caren1971, you must decide what is important for you. Good luck.

[jenkins09]

Caren,

I feel for you. I believe that yes, you will be strong again, but you will need some help. Can you afford to seek the advice of a qualified therapist? if not, perhaps there are some community agencies that offer therapy at discounted rates.

What do you want? do you want to stay married? are you afraid to leave? Is this the kind of marriage you want? please take care of you.

You deserve better than that. Despite your family's opinion, you need to do what you have to do to be happy. Obviously, that does not entail staying with your husband. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and cares for you, and does not disrespect you by cheating on you, this is obviously not a happy marriage, your husband has made sure of that. He only thinks of himself and his own happiness, you need to get the courage up to get a divorce, you shouldn't feel like a prisoner in your own home, or be mad all the time,. That's not healthy, mentally and physically. You son also deserves to grow up in a happy home, and I'm sure seeing you always miserable probably makes him miserable at times too. Find a new support group outside your family, friends, support groups, whatever works for you. Good luck! =)

Originally Posted by caren1971

2004 to 2010 my husband was cheating on me with me son tutor that worked with him whom which he referred.this woman smile in my face plus wrote a book which i brought and had given this woman a dozen of rose.in 2009 my husband went to Washington DC and he forgot to log off his computer which he never does at all.i found out that the have had sex made love like two married couples that are truly in love..now that his health is getting poor were as he has kidney disease,he inform me that they don't communicate anymore but they do.he promise. also when they want to dc he slept with another co-worker how i know he stated that a man roded with them.i confronted that man and he stated that i want that's what he was told.my son is 10 yrs old my family say what ever goes on in your house do what ever it takes to keep your family together no matter what.my husband haven't touch me in 6mos.he says that his health has him feeling like this but kidney disease wasn't told to him until march2010.he says that he don't have no desires.but the weekend i am at work he drops my son off at my parents and pick him up before he pick me up at 11pm.please help me i just want to be happy if that's anyway possible.i have no friends because he thinks there are going to introduce me to another man.2009 we start sleeping different beds,I still feel in my heart he has feeling for this woman.i have no friends.i found this site and have read some of this things prople have wrote,I WONDER will i ever be strong again or will i be a proisoner in my on home an stay mad as hell all the time.

[caren1971]

Thank you and yes i can afford a therapist,things that you said is so true .thank you for sharing that advice with me.

How are you doing, caren1971?

[Envision]

Therapy. While there is always a lot more to the story that one can tell here, the trust issue seems at the heart of it. He has to be a part of re-establishing that, or it can't happen for you. I think sleeping in different beds is a good thing until you get your feet on more solid ground. Best of luck.