What Do Girls Want?

I am so curious as to what girls want in a guy. Does a girl want a guy who is always there for them, through it all? Or would she rather have a guy who does his own thing and has time for her sometimes. This has always confused me. Some people say that if a guy devotes all his time to a girl, it kills the attraction. But I thought that in a true relationship, it would be nice if the girl and guy spent as much time together as they can, because they loved and treasured each others company and each wanted to be with other so much.

So here I am, stuck at the thought. For a long term relationship, do girls want a guy who is always right there by their side? Or do they want a guy who has other things than her and doesn't make her a priority? I would think that true love would make the two inseparable and the couple would try to spend time together as much as possible.

Why do guys think all "girls" want the same thing?

It's not about how much time you spend but about how much you care. It takes time for young people to see through and find the essence of love. A girl who understands all that is worth your love.

Each realtionship is diffrent, what works for one realtionship may not work for another, it's all based on each indivduals needs. No two girls want exactly the same thing, same way no two guys want exactly the saem thing or need the same thing in every relationship


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Depends on the girl But as a general rule, we all appreciate respect, kindness, tenderness and sincerity.

I know that not all girls at the same. But there seems to be a general consensus that most girls are similar and react better towards different ways they are treated. For one, I would think a girl wouldn't like to be on a pedestal

I think different girls want different things similarly to how different guys want different things.

Part of the problem with the wanting to spend all your time together... Is that that tends to result in unhappiness in the longer term.

For example... There can be someone in your life who you love very much. Your best friend. Your mother. Your sister. You can love and appreciate them a great deal but you don't have EVERYTHING in common with them. So you go off and do your own thing, go off and hang out with different people. Sometimes that can make the quality of time that you do spend together a lot better. You have other stuff to talk to each other about etc.

Of course things tend not to work if there isn't anything in common and the couple doesn't really want to spend any time together. But I do think that there is this negotiation of dependence and interdependence... Of time together and time apart... That makes human intimate relationships the hardest thing in the world.

I personally would be wary of a guy being too 'clingy' - of feeling guilty if I wanted to have a night to myself to wash my hair etc... If I wanted to go out with other friends... But I'd similarly be wary of a guy who was too independent. Who didn't seem to want to spend time with me compared to his other friends... Who didn't seem to enjoy spending time with me.

I think it is a compatability thing.

But... The thought that you 'aren't complete or whole' until some other person comes along and completes you... Well, in the words of alanis morrissette (who has boundary issues to be sure) 'I believe that one and one make two'.

I believe relationships are much more difficult than a math problem. We already can see that communication is a problem. Learning to listen is so important.

But then, I am an old geezer whose next relationship will likely be with the grim reaper.

Good luck.

I agree. An acquaintance is looking for a girl friend who will do his book keeping.

I'm looking for a guy who thinks weedeating is recreation.

> An acquaintance is looking for a girl friend who will do his book keeping.

Hmm... A boyfriend who could do that would be handy :-D

bballer, how is your crossover dribble?

Guys need to stop looking at girls as if they;re all the same. One person's advice only works for one girl. If you like a girl, don't research all the things girls are 'suppose to alwaya like." You've got to take interest in the girl you feel soft for and impres HER, show your love doing things she loves and find your way to her heart.

Wishing you the best.

~L.L.

LabLover has this right.

There is no manual to "women" or relationships for that matter. In fact if you tried to just follow some general set of rules it would probably be more of a turn off than anything. It has been my experience that women don't want a guy who can memorize a few "simple steps to success". They want a guy who takes a real interest in them, puts in the effort to learn their likes, dislikes and so on.

Also, I can't speak as a woman but I think it is a bit of a misconception to think that a woman "wants to be on a pedestal". It is more accurate to look at things in the way that they want to feel special but they don't want to feel like they are put up on display, not to be touched, to be treated like a doll, or to feel like your always walking on egg shells around them.

In short, treat them as a real person, not some object to be worshiped from afar. Show them respect, care about them, give support when it is needed, be there for them no matter what (even at 4AM after a long night), or as you might guess, treat them the way you wish to be treated.

It takes time to find someone who is right for you and more time to build a relationship. Don't try to rush it, just let it happen and enjoy every step of the way.

P.S. When you find that special someone you will have no idea what to do anyway, you will be all mixed up, nervous as can be and making mistakes regularly. Don't worry, it is normal, just do your best and things will work out in the end. If nothing else, years down the road you two will look back and laugh at all of the little things that didn't work out quite the way you had hoped. You will realize that much of it really was silly and it will just be a fond memory for the both of you.