[semiblond]

I am trying to learn how to control my feeling and emotions. I just finished going through a terrible divorce. My ex husband hurt me tremendously, and I retaliated by hurting him with my mouth. I am trying to learn how to control that behavior so it doesn't happen anymore. If anyone could give me any pointers that would be great. I just don't want to be angry anymore.

[Okami]

First of all, I am truly sorry that you are going through such a tough time right now. Anger is a pretty strong emotion. And if he hurt you, Im not surprised you'd feel that way or retaliate. But at the same time I do realize the devastating effect it can have on almost any situation when it gets out of control. So its almost as if you feel like you can't win.

But really, I know you can. Since the divorce was so recent, time will do wonders early on to carry you through the worst of it. But sometimes if Im overwhelmed by a certain emotion or something I just feel like I can't control, Ill immediately stop what Im doing and just allow my mind to clear. Almost like a quick meditation session. As if Im allowing the anger, sadness, whatever to just flow out of me. It works wonders for anger for me, personally. Just because anger feels like such a physical, intrusive emotion.

Some slow, easy breathing helps too. Try to picture something that will bring you joy. Keep trying to see the positive. Sometimes to keep control, we just need to take it slow and easy. Try to imagine yourself in a protective barrier and let anything that makes you want to lash out fly off of it.

Keep your environment calm also, if possible. Dedicate a place you can go to just to cool off if at any point something triggers the anger again.

As for the pain of the divorce, just keep trooping forward and remember that better and more brighter opportunities will come! I am very sorry that you have been hurt and if you need anyone to vent to, feel free to drop me a line or let me know if there is anything else that can be done. (: I wish you the best of luck and may peaceful times follow in abundance.

Hello, semiblond.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/ang...5/METHOD=print
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/ang...2/METHOD=print
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/24738
http://careerplanning.about.com/cs/p...ger_manage.htm
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[MomoBear]

I think I've had the same problem.
I've always had a hard time just "brushing things off" when I've been verbally hurt by other people.
I'm still having problems controlling it a little, but not as worse as before.
The most hardest thing I could ever control, is calming myself down. I sometimes like
to close my eyes, and say to myself, "If don't have anything nice to say, I will not say anything at all." Closing my eyes, helps me relax.
Silly, I know. But I feel much better afterwards (I'm sorry, I wish I was much more help. x])

Goodluck sweetheart! <3

[semiblond]

Thank you guys so much!! I know time heals all wounds, and I need to take each day as it comes. I am a good person and one day I will find happiness again.

[semiblond]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Hello, semiblond.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/ang...5/METHOD=print
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/ang...2/METHOD=print
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/24738
http://careerplanning.about.com/cs/p...ger_manage.htm
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Thank you so much for these links!!!!

Good luck, semiblond.

[Envision]

It seems like I see anger management courses all over the place. Have you checked with a local counselor or community agency? They are probably designed for a different situation than yours but will have many common threads. Someone specializing in that type of training would know the best techniques. It is hard to be happy and angry at the same time. One has got to go and you picked the right one.