[tinyflyer02]

Well my guy and I decided on a mutual break. He still tells me he loves me and everything. We've been thinking about it for awhile since both of us have been unhappy. We still talk about things. Today he told me no matter what happens to us he still wants to be there for me and be one of my best friends, which i appreciate dearly. He still wants us to hang out, but I really don't know if we should or not. I asked him if he wants the engagement ring back he told me that it's his ring and he decides whether he wants me to keep it or not. The ring is his mom's old ring. He doesn't believe this will be a permanent break up, but from what i've read I'm just a safety net. I just don't know what to believe. I have been crying and been reflecting on our past relationship, which started out good until we moved into together. We do realize that we shouldn't of so early in the relationship. He basically wants to start over with me. I just don't know what to do

I'm just needing some advice. Thanks for all reading this.

Sorry the relationship is not going so well. Being a safety net does not seem that appealing.

Take care of yourself. Remind yourself you are a good person. Good luck.

[tinyflyer02]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Sorry the relationship is not going so well. Being a safety net does not seem that appealing.

Take care of yourself. Remind yourself you are a good person. Good luck.

Thank you. Well last night I asked him if he already found someone else to let me know. He told me he has been talking with someone else and he apologized. He still wanted to be friends and i told him I couldn't. He had given me false hope on friday then to I'm talking to someone else. He didn't want to hurt me, but he really did. I've been through a lot with him and this has practically destroyed me. I fell in love with him so hard and he told me he didn't think we had a future together. After he told me, I told him not to speak to me ever again and to leave me alone. Today him and my mom's bf talked and he doesn't blame me for anything and it's his own fault. He told my mom's bf that he really didn't want to hurt, but he really hurt me. Also, mom's bf really made him think about how I feel. I know the split was for the best, but I just wish he wouldn't of found someone already. All I want to do is just cry my eyes out and do nothing.

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[tinyflyer02]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

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Thanks. I'm still feeling horrible today I saw him with the girl I believe he's been messing with for awhile. I just don't know what to do because his mom text me earlier. She was asking me how I was feeling; hoping we could keep in touch, and she told me that I'm very special to her. Am I wrong for feeling that it is too soon?

I think you should recognize this guy is playing a mean game or you and he are no more.

Love yourself.

[Belle1979]

I am so sorry you are in this situation... I feel for you totally.
If you can move on and move past him (great advice - I give it but have trouble taking it myself).
It's a long lonely road to travel but remember that there are people here at PC that are ALWAYS listening and giving you brilliant advice.
If he has moved on so quickly.. imo.. it wont work out and he wont be happy but don't hold hope for that (been there done that - it's not good for your state of mind).
Hugs to you oooxxxooo

[tinyflyer02]

I know what you mean. Last night, I went to my grandparents house and they were just plain mean to me about it. They were like we saw you are 'single' now. They are wanting me to get married, have kids, a different job, a house and everything like that right now. It was a week yesterday and now I'm completely wanting him back no matter how bad it was.

Grieving takes time. You make the choices here. He said he did not want to hurt you but it has not stopped him. Hard to trust a guy like that.

Good luck.

[tinyflyer02]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Grieving takes time. You make the choices here. He said he did not want to hurt you but it has not stopped him. Hard to trust a guy like that.

Good luck.

Yeah it really is. I've wanted so bad to text his mom, but everyone is giving me mixed messages on it. Some say go ahead because it's not their fault, but others are like don't do it because you could give them false hope of you getting back together. I am starting to feel better as the days have gone by. Today I wrote a letter that I'm not going to send or anything, but to write out some of my frustrations with him. He was very emotionally abusive to me. He treated me more like a slave and never did anything I would like to do. It is nice having support from all friends :-)

[secret_titan]

Originally Posted by tinyflyer02

He was very emotionally abusive to me. He treated me more like a slave and never did anything I would like to do.

I understand how hard it is to go through this situation. But take a look at what I quoted from you. NOBODY deserves to be abused. Ever. A good relationship requires both parties to occasionally compromise to make each other happy. I can see that this is hard for you to go through, but you will be better off in the end. ** just my opinion**

Good luck, and make sure you take time to be free before you jump into another relationship.