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Old May 10, 2010, 09:44 PM
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About 3 years ago I was thrown in jail for an altercation I had with an ex-girlfriend of mine. No one was hurt but I served 2 weeks in jail for it. Since that dreadful incident my entire family decided that they didn't want anything to do with me. None of them will speak to me. This includes my brother, sister, Mom and even a cousin of mine.

This has lead me feeling completely in Aw and disgusted with their decision. Now, I can't do anything about the choice they've made; I do want to know how I should deal with this rejection emotionally. I know I need to move on with my life but I'm not sure how this whole thing has effected me. What can and should I do to go about my life and make sure I heal from this emotionally and in a healthy way? Any advice would be appreciated.

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Old May 10, 2010, 10:05 PM
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Have you thought about seeking out professional guidance? I know...not everyone needs therapy, but to be estranged from ones family can be devastating, especially if it was not your choice.

PC is great for support so you could hang here, but in order to really process this you will probably need some help. This is a huge loss...and you need to grieve the loss. And maybe a professional can also help you to begin to mend fences.

Good luck.
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Old May 11, 2010, 09:55 AM
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Could you show your family this post, how their alienation is affecting you emotionally? Therapy has helped me enormously, too. I will be thinking about you, praying for you. We all make mistakes, it is just the size of the mistake that at times becomes an issue. I sincerely wish you the best in life, that your life improves....I have seen my own life come around when it for sure was lost, I wish this for you
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Old May 11, 2010, 12:21 PM
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I really don't care for using cliche's, but in this case of yours I think this one may apply. Time heals all wounds.

However, due to the fact of how this situation has devastated you and left you uncertain to how you are feeling at present, then perhaps seeking guidance would prove very beneficial.

I've been removed from family, but of my choice. I still feel a great loss as, naturally, I miss them, but maintaining relations with them only prove inevitable emotional despair for me, anymore.

I hope that you find some help with this....

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Old May 11, 2010, 12:44 PM
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Have you thought about seeking out professional guidance? I know...not everyone needs therapy, but to be estranged from ones family can be devastating, especially if it was not your choice.

PC is great for support so you could hang here, but in order to really process this you will probably need some help. This is a huge loss...and you need to grieve the loss. And maybe a professional can also help you to begin to mend fences.

Good luck.
Hello Elysium; the answer is YES, I have sought professional help. I start this week. I suppose I'll need to go over everything that has happened and how to grieve properly and then hopefully be able to move one with my life. Wish me luck!
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Old May 11, 2010, 12:49 PM
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Good luck, william1971.
Thanks for this!
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Old May 11, 2010, 03:58 PM
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Could you show your family this post, how their alienation is affecting you emotionally? Therapy has helped me enormously, too. I will be thinking about you, praying for you. We all make mistakes, it is just the size of the mistake that at times becomes an issue. I sincerely wish you the best in life, that your life improves....I have seen my own life come around when it for sure was lost, I wish this for you
Thanks for your thoughts and prayers Junerian, God knows I certainly need them. As for the family, I think it might be a road I may venture down some day but right now I'm hurt and need to heal first off.
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Old May 11, 2010, 03:59 PM
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Good luck, william1971.
Thanks TheByzantine!!
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Old May 11, 2010, 08:04 PM
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May your journey of healing be a beautiful growth opportunity, and that sounds like a good place to start

I am sure things will begin to turn around ever so slowly as far as eventually dealing with the fam...
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