[Unrigged64072835]

My husband and I have a friend who is also a colleague of ours. He was best man at our wedding, and my husband talks to him on an almost daily basis about work matters and life in general.

This friend is going through a nasty divorce. His estranged wife is using everything she can to get as much money out of him as she can. If the court agrees, he could lose his car, his house, and his job. If he loses his job he cannot make the payments and could go to jail.

Today my husband received a very disturbing email from him. Basically he asked my husband if he wanted to be a pallbearer at his funeral. He thinks he'll be dead in about a month. My husband hasn't been able to get ahold of him to find out if he is serious or not.

We live in another state and it's an eight-hour drive to reach him. Even if we could we cannot afford to let him live here as we're already struggling financially. We're at a loss as to what we can say to him or do for him once my husband can contact him.

We're in a holding pattern, and right now it's a very uncomfortable place to be.

[Open Eyes]

(((((Fharraige)))))

Wow, are you sure this woman could get everything? That doesn't sound right to me.
If I were him and going to lose everthing, then I would just spend the dam lot on the fight. That isn't fair that he lose everything like that. Usually there is a 50/50 split unless the wife owned and can prove she owned everything. And she should not get his car and job.

Keep leaving messages with him, ofcourse he is upset and maybe he is just saying he is going to lose everything because he just feels that way.

Let us know if you hear from him and that he is ok.

I will send some prayers.

Open Eyes

[siljie]

Oh my goodness, the possibility must be horrible.

But don't you believe it and don't let you're friend believe it... Keep and keep trying to contact him, and if it is still un-returned try getting in touch with other friends of his or relatives or other people living nearby him, see what they know!

[Unrigged64072835]

My husband got ahold of him this morning. He said he was being facetious. Apparently there's still 3-4 months of negotiating to do before the divorce is final, so hopefully he can substantially prove that he cannot provide what she is asking for financially. The state they reside in is an equitable distribution state, and since he has been working and she hasn't, she can ask for what she thinks is fair. Whether it is or not is up to the court.

[JLarissaDragon]

A divorce is never a thing of beauty. Generally speaking marital assets get split down the middle and he could be on the line for spousal support and child support if there are any kids. Attorneys ask for the universe for their clients, so the demands before settlement are always outlandish. My brother went through a similar situation several years ago, and thought he would not survive. It was really hard for him for a while but he put his life back together, Now he is remarried and has a good life. His ex wife on the other hand, married another loser and lives on welfare. Keep encouraging him and be supportive. He needs it Than God things get better

[Perna]

I know it was a relief to you all to hear he was just joking about how he felt she was going to be taking everything. I hope his lawyer is on the ball.