Trying to talk to him

Hi. I had posted here almost a month ago and I still cannot get my things back or get the money he owes me on a credit card. My friends tell me to go to small claims court but I dont really want to be that mean. I keep calling and texting him, I have even threatened to go over to his house but he still doesnt respond! I do not have the means to payoff his debt. Yes, I was stupid and let him use one of my credit cards to purchase a fridgs with. We were suppose to get married or I would have never done that. Last time I posted, it was suggested a get a police officer to go to his home with me. The problem is he is a police office and all of buddies are the police too!
I am so embarressed for things I have done. Texting, calling and even sitting outside his house to see if I could catch him outside, I feel like a stalker! I tried knocking on his door, but he runs to the basement and hides! What can I do? I cant seem to move on and I am not sure if its because I still love him or is it because his debt is weighing over my head? I am so confused and feel so sad and lonely!

First, going to small claims court is not mean. If a person owes you money and refuses to pay it back, that is mean.

Second, if he were honorable and owed you money, he would have paid you back already if he had the means or, if he did not have the immediate means to pay you back, he would have responded by now to your repeated attempts to get him to acknowledge you. Therefore, he is dishonorable. He is also a police officer...a bad combination.

I would say that you have no financial recourse against a dishonorable police officer. Whether it is feelings of love or of debt that have kept you bound to this man, I think it is almost certainly in your best interests to walk away and consider this a life lesson for the price of a refrigerator.

Theoretically, no one is above the law. I urge you to test that theory. First, call the Chief of Police to explain what is going on with one of his officers. Ask the Chief to help you get your property back.

If the officer does not have the funds to pay for the refrigerator, you are entitled to it as long as it was not intended as a gift. In addition, the officer should be responsible for a fair rental fee during the time he used it. You might find out what a fair rental is for the refrigerator by calling a rental store.

Next, I would call the Mayor and explain what is going on. Tell the Mayor you are concerned that the Chief will look out for his officer first. Ask the Mayor to call the Chief to see that a fair and thorough investigation is done.

Then call a reporter at the local newspaper to ask if the paper is interested in publishing a story about your ordeal. If not, write a letter to the editor.

My next phone call would be to the City or County Attorney, whichever has jurisdiction, to find out if there is probable cause to believe a crime has been committed. Theft of property is defined in some jurisdictions thusly:

Theft of property. A person is guilty of theft if he:
Knowingly takes or exercises unauthorized control over, or makes an unauthorized transfer of an interest in, the property of another with intent to deprive the owner thereof;

If you still have not gotten satisfaction, I would write to your state and federal representatives to express you deep disappointment regarding how those who are charged with upholding the law are allowed to so blatantly break it.

One final caveat. Demand to be paid in guaranteed funds like a cashier's check or bank money order. If the officer gives you a check there is nothing to prevent him from stopping payment on it.

Good luck.