I have no friends, or very few. Anyone else?

The good thing about this forum is that people are open and honest with you. They openly ignore you posts if they get a feeling that they resonate at a different level, but they are never rude to you. I like that kind of respect that people should have for each other.

But I've never met a single person on here that I have not liked; and that says a lot for such a forum. Because everyone has suffered similarly there is an unspoken respect and support for one another...so every one will have friends on here eventually,

Loving thoughts,

Rhi

I too struggle with not having a friend. I have been thinking, as well, that I wish I had someone to share my thoughts and life with. I can't really say that I'm friendless, though. I just don't have any active friends right now. My most recent friends have kind of gone their own way even though I have tried to stay in contact. Friends are precious that much it true. I wonder if it is harder to find friends now a days. I think the main thing to do is to try to keep putting yourself in places where you might find a friend. More important I think, though, is to be a good friend to those you meet even if they aren't your first choice for a friend.

I agree so much with you. Also I love the picture of the cat.

I just lost my last close friend. She ended our friendship because I wouldn't take her advice and divorce my Bipolar husband - she's been married 3 times so she's "experienced". She said it was too taxing for her to constantly worry about me and that she didn't want to be around when "the burning building starts to collapse". Whatever that means. It's a shame, I have known her for almost 10 years. Gee, sorry I love my husband.

I've always been somewhat of a loaner so I guess I go back to that. I don't think people want close friendships these days anyway. Everyone seems to be a convenience friend now.

I have the same trouble, but I know why. I don't trust people not to harm or use me. I was originally a dumb kid, idealistic/naive, etc., then after having my trust kicked all to hell, I turned evil-selfish. Since I turned from good girl to feeling like I needed to be cagey, I now see how 'nice' people can turn on you, if they feel justified in doing so. All being cagey got me, was alone, but I still can't get past it. I feel scared of my naive years and 'guilty' for my evil years, and can't believe I can get past either, without getting slammed again. I just posted this on another site too.