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#1
Jun 17, 2010, 08:53 PM
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Have recently found out that my husband opened a bank accout without me knowing. When confronted he said it was none of my business as he was putting his overtime in it.....very frustrating for me
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Jun 17, 2010, 10:31 PM
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Financial infidelity is very destructive and devastating. He should have discussed it with you, at least thats how I feel. How do you feel about that? Did you two ever discuss finances before you got married? how the money would be divided? do you both have separate accounts now?
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#3
Jun 17, 2010, 10:32 PM
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Hello, cma62. Sorry this is happening. Secret accounts and insensitive answers are problematical. I hope you kept a record of the institution and the account number. It is your business.
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Jun 18, 2010, 01:19 AM
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I would open my own one and make sure he was aware of it ....
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#5
Jun 20, 2010, 08:34 PM
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thank you all for your support. money has always been an issue in our marriage, he feels because he earns more money he makes the final decision on how it's spent especially big ticket items. When i needed a new car he said he would buy me a car as it was cheaper on gas but i wanted a van as i was always driving everywhere for my 4 children's sports.i had received an iheritance that i wanted to put in our joint acct but he said no keep it separate. However if i wanted a van i would have to buy it myself. He is obssessed about saving to the point of it being petty. I'm not a big spender but because i'm not like him he considers me wasteful. I felt that wanting a van to feel safer for myself and the children was not an unrea.snable request.He was more intent on saving money on gas
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#6
Jun 20, 2010, 08:55 PM
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Thank you all for your support it is much appreciated
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#7
Jun 20, 2010, 11:36 PM
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It is hard cma62 in fact money is probably one of the most prevailant causes of issues in marraiges the world over.
He's probably trying to copy your inheritance. Some people are obsessive when it comes to money, but I don't get why he kept it secret. As far as the van is concerned tell him that you would appreciate whatever money he was going to spend on the car to be put towards the van. And if he has issue with the need for a van, let him take the kids everywhere see what he thinks then? Rhi
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Jun 21, 2010, 01:01 PM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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